She wants an orgasm!!!

hipster · 05-29-2008, 09:29 PM

My girlfriend and i have been together over a year and have been enjoying various forms of four play and touching. We have very passionate love making without actual intercourse, i.e. touching each other, messages, oral, kissing etc. It has been great however she has only been able to climax once. Although she always gets very turned on and says it feels really good (and i believe her because of the look on her face during the act) i really want to give her an orgasm and not sure why its been so hard.

I have tried various techniques, including clitoral and inner g-spot stimulation, as well as tongue and finger, which she loves, but cant ever seem to get the climax...

Any ladies who can advise some techniques or thoughts so i can better satisfy her, shes so great to me so i want it to be just as great for her.

**LadyLane** · 05-29-2008, 10:47 PM

First of all, not all women can orgasm, and not all the women that can orgasm can do so each and every time.

Secondly, sounds like you're doing just fine. She may be concentrating on trying to "find" her orgasm when you're together and can't. It takes relaxation and a very good knowledge of what gets you off to be able to do it each time.

I think it'll just happen again. You can always ask her while you're doing your thing how it feels... if you should change anything... what might feel better... if you have that line of communication open, she'll tell you.

**Hystorm** · 05-29-2008, 11:05 PM

If she masterbates and is able to climax that way, ask her if she feels comfortable allowing you to watch so you can see first hand how and what she needs. Take notes (kidding), just make sure you don't forget what it is she did exactly.

She may simply be trying to hard. I know this has happened may times with my wife. There have been times she wanted to have a vaginal orgasm and was trying way too hard to accomplish that. Would almost never happen. Then, when she had said, 'heck with it, I'll just enjoy the act and enjoy being with you'...ding, ding...Climax!

Worth trying.

Good luck.

05-29-2008, 09:29 PM	#1
hipster Junior Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 3	She wants an orgasm!!! My girlfriend and i have been together over a year and have been enjoying various forms of four play and touching. We have very passionate love making without actual intercourse, i.e. touching each other, messages, oral, kissing etc. It has been great however she has only been able to climax once. Although she always gets very turned on and says it feels really good (and i believe her because of the look on her face during the act) i really want to give her an orgasm and not sure why its been so hard. I have tried various techniques, including clitoral and inner g-spot stimulation, as well as tongue and finger, which she loves, but cant ever seem to get the climax... Any ladies who can advise some techniques or thoughts so i can better satisfy her, shes so great to me so i want it to be just as great for her.

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05-29-2008, 10:47 PM	#2
LadyLane Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 361	First of all, not all women can orgasm, and not all the women that can orgasm can do so each and every time. Secondly, sounds like you're doing just fine. She may be concentrating on trying to "find" her orgasm when you're together and can't. It takes relaxation and a very good knowledge of what gets you off to be able to do it each time. I think it'll just happen again. You can always ask her while you're doing your thing how it feels... if you should change anything... what might feel better... if you have that line of communication open, she'll tell you.

05-29-2008, 11:05 PM	#3
Hystorm Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 198	If she masterbates and is able to climax that way, ask her if she feels comfortable allowing you to watch so you can see first hand how and what she needs. Take notes (kidding), just make sure you don't forget what it is she did exactly. She may simply be trying to hard. I know this has happened may times with my wife. There have been times she wanted to have a vaginal orgasm and was trying way too hard to accomplish that. Would almost never happen. Then, when she had said, 'heck with it, I'll just enjoy the act and enjoy being with you'...ding, ding...Climax! Worth trying. Good luck.