misslady66

I've read stuff on love making, compared to all the girls I know I'm pretty late on being a virgin, I know I won't regret it and I'm ready to have sex
I'm in love and he never pressures me even though hes not a virgin and I know after I get the birth control I want to bring up that I want to make love... whats the best way to say that to him... the romantic, this-is-cause-I-love-you way... and is 4 months too fast... I feel like I've known him for so long... also what to expect for the very first time
and yes even with bc I'm still gonna use a condom

CHANDLERS WISH

lol.. I love the last line.

If your ready, your ready, 1 month, 4, 12, makes no difference...

You also want romance, and to be made love to...

If he is not a Virgin and you've been together 4 months, obviously, very intimate and close in other ways then you can talk to him openly about it.

Tell him you love him, and want to make slow passionate love, in a romantic way so he gets the whole picture in his head...

Or, personally, i would hint all of the above, so he knows it will happen but not when so the pressure is of a bit and create a romantic scene so it's your plan that he walks into, kind of like a fantasy for both that way and you've already hinted how you would want it played out, so he has that in his mind...

That may be more special, than just telling him, then going right there or him anticipating.

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C

Just because you read of all the love and mush here doesn't mean that it is going to be like this with you...If you want to give him this special gift then it is up to you...But it should not be done because all the other girls have done it...

I am so far from being a prude that I shouldn't even be saying the word....But just make sure he is the one that is worthy of you...TC, C

anonymouswhitefemale

I'm not sure that I would talk about it - talking about it would reduce the magic, so to speak. Body language is a language unto itself, and I think it should be exploited.

He knows you've waited, and that it's a big deal for you, and it will be for him too. If things don't go down exactly as you you want them to, then speak up, guide him, blah blah.

Maybe I think it's a shame to use a condom if you're on birth control, from a mans perspective, as sex with a condom is like.... err... (*thinks for good example*).... modelling a clay vase on a wheel with boxing gloves on. It's , and it doesn't work... What a bad similie, oh well, you get my point.

misslady66

caroline thanks for the tip but I know I'm ready with him for the way I feel with him and how he never pressures me and loves me when I'm not made up and how I trust him and feel comfortable with him
I am not here to convince anyone I'm ready I'm here to get tips on first times

C

Then I would say that you are talking with some of the smartest women around...My words are older words and my thoughts on life rather obsolete...This is one of those times when I have forgotten to remember the changing of the guard.....But I will next time....I promise....

Fallen1

I know exactly what you mean, heck there's nothing like the real thing. But I'd never suggest to someone not to use on. There are other things out there that are far worse than pregnancy.


Hmmm ...... maybe just small hints from you will do the trick. Next time you are kissing (and you think it's the time) just start letting your hands do some "roaming" until they finally make their way down to his package. Let them stay there and caress it for a minute and then ease them up and unbutton his pants. Then take both hands and push his pants to the floor ...... and well just let it take it's course from there.


If you haven't already done this I don't see why this wouldn't give him a hint.

misslady66

man so should I talk to him or just do it
I kind of liked the small talk but I'd like to just then do it - no love games of making him wait again

CHANDLERS WISH

Well, personally, if you've done the small talk then he knows eventually you will want to go further i imagine...

Just set a mood if you want a touch of romance involved, what underwear you want to wear type of thing and kiss him, let the rest follow, he'll know especially if you guide him in the end near you, he'll get the message....

Good luck, have fun and hope it's all you dreamed of..

CW

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damd

All you need to do is give him subtle hints, he'll pick them up.

You can of course make it real easy. Just invite him over for a romantic diner at your place. Wear something nice but suggestive, candles, wine (not too much). Play with him, make sure he has two testies with your toes. While he is kissing you make sure his hands discover that you don't have any panties on.