bj?
please help me. i really want tp perform oral sex on my boyfriend as he has done it on me but im a little scared. any advice on how to do it well would be really appreciated! i know this is silly but should i spit or swallow (i know how weird that sounds but ive never done this before)
thanks xx
This is not a silly question at all! In fact, I am sure every woman has wanted to know this at some point in their lives. Please forgive me if what I am about to say is too graphic for some, but this IS in fact an informative site.
The key to a good BJ is taking it slow at first, being gentle, and communicating with him about what feels good. Some men like for a woman to be rough, but most do not. So think gentle. You should kind of work your way down to that area, much like he would on you. Kissing here and there and all of that good stuff. Use both your hands and your mouth to provide stimulation. Every little thing will help from lightly breathing on it, to putting the whole thing in your mouth (not to try to be too graphic). You can start out by brushing your lips and face against it, kissing it, licking here and there. Eventually you work up to putting the head in your mouth. You can do a little at first. No need to rush it. Use your tongue to stimulate the head and maybe run it down the shaft. Nothing has to be done any certain way. Remember to keep your teeth from applying pressure or s****ing the skin as this can be painful for him. Use your lips to apply slight pressure in an up and down motion. Try to find out from him if you are using enough or too much pressure. Turning your head as you move up and down can add a little more to it. Some men like it when the woman uses her hand as well as her mouth and some don't. It's best to ask him what he likes. When using your hand, apply slight pressure, ask him if it's enough, and make sure not to tug on the skin/penis, but to let it glide smoothly in your hand with lubrication from your mouth. You can also use your hand and mouth to GENTLY caress the testicles.
It always helps to tell the guy before hand that you want him to tell you when he is going ejaculate/cum. This way you are not caught by suprise when it happens. When the sperm comes out, it can some times be a lot or can have some force to it and it's best to be ready for it. It's up to you if you spit or swallow. I think that is just something that women decide once it is in their mouth really. It wont hurt you either way. Some women like it and some women can't stand it. You just have to wait and find out. Just try not to make a mess all over him.
~Jessica
a really good bj
ok strart out kissing, him, rub his chest, kiss his chest, work your way down, slowy lick it like alolipop!, then take your hand and slowly jack him offf while you suck on him, play with his balls aswell... man he will love ya forever... i often supprize my man i catch him offf gaurd and do it i sollow, i dont like it but i do itr because it drives my husband.... nuts...
ditto to what the others have said. I use my hand and grab the base of the penis firmly while I'm sucking so I don't feel like I have to put so much in my mouth. And the testicle touching is a definite pleaser!! However, I think it's gross to let him ejaculate in my mouth, and he agrees-he doesn't want me to have to deal with that, so I can usually tell when he's cumming and I just get up and lay on him while he goes. Sure you get it on your stomachs, but have a towel handy and it's not a problem.
Good stuff....
The above posts are all good - and accurate..... have a playful "naughty" attitude about you and make suggestive eye contact with him.... I know I want to know that my wife likes what she is doing..... it puts us at ease.. men have to concentrate on our physical feelings a bit so we can relax..... to spit or swallow.... hmmmmm.... that's a tough one.... to me the swallow is the best thing... both physically and sexually... I do the same for her and I have no problem kissing her right afterwards.... we don't make my semen the central thing... it's not.... I have made love to her and reved her up good after I climax and then go down on her and drive her over the brink... I therefore have tasted my own semen... NO BIG DEAL!!! I love her and she loves me and we want each other to feel GREAT!!!! I suggest going slowly, but never put limits on yourselves.... sex is a great thing and to keep it great you have to be wiling to explore... and not stop.... especially if one time things didn't go right... trust me - sex isn't always perfect... but it's fun to keep at it.... you do get better at it...I hope this helps a bit
Hi Just-a-regular-guy.. I hope you don't mind me telling you as i didn't know myself, but if you look at the threaders post there is a date next to it, this was 2006 and then the last poster's date, if that is not 2008 no point hoping it helps them because they're not going to read it..Originally Posted by Just-a-regular-guy
The above posts are all good - and accurate..... have a playful "naughty" attitude about you and make suggestive eye contact with him.... I know I want to know that my wife likes what she is doing..... it puts us at ease.. men have to concentrate on our physical feelings a bit so we can relax..... to spit or swallow.... hmmmmm.... that's a tough one.... to me the swallow is the best thing... both physically and sexually... I do the same for her and I have no problem kissing her right afterwards.... we don't make my semen the central thing... it's not.... I have made love to her and reved her up good after I climax and then go down on her and drive her over the brink... I therefore have tasted my own semen... NO BIG DEAL!!! I love her and she loves me and we want each other to feel GREAT!!!! I suggest going slowly, but never put limits on yourselves.... sex is a great thing and to keep it great you have to be wiling to explore... and not stop.... especially if one time things didn't go right... trust me - sex isn't always perfect... but it's fun to keep at it.... you do get better at it...
Just thought i'd let you know...
I pull old threads though, and add to it, but it seems that you think they are current....
Hope that was ok to say...
CW
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