Thread: More about masturbation habits

Originally Posted by LoverofSEX

Well from all the posts here, I have answered my nagging question on "Who services Who" especially if you get him one of those chastity devices, next all you need is a riding crop :-)

If your hubby is taking care of you a regular basis like once a day down to several times a week I fail to see the problem if he still want to take care of himself in addition/ The pron would be a different problem as when I look at porn I could be ready on an hourly basis, all pron does is prime the pump so I'm ready to go at it again.

I think my husband could probably do masturbation twice a day and still have sex (intercourse or oral) once. I think he did that a couple of times during our relationship. I think it was normal for him to masturbate at least once and then have sex with me later (or visa versa) almost everyday for a looooonnngggggg time while he was out of work. I think he missed that when he went back to work....still does.
I know....I should make a big deal of it if he is making love to me. I thin at one time I think he preferred it to intercourse and thought there might be something *wrong* between us. I thought maybe he wanted something else, but it hasn't been as tough on me since I realized (after he told me!) that he really wants to do both.

>>>>LoverofSex-

Typo....
Make that, "...I know....I *shouldn't* make a big deal..."

I have to admit I enjoy masturbation over sex but only a little bit. The hand, "Fleshlight", a "T" shirt on a pillow or any other means does not compare to the Virgina. It's so simple to go to bed a little early, masturbate tand fall asleep. It's called lazy, selfish, inconsiderate, and a lot of other things and what it boils down to is not fulfilling the husbandly duties of pleasing his mate, and life is short and we grow older by the second. A little porn and I am ready, all the porn is, is a catalyst for the action.

Masterbation: READ ON

Masturbation is a big topic too. We all know that men masturbate. Why do men masturbate??? This is easy to understand: (these are facts)
1. cannot communicate or afraid to communicate desire
2. fantasizing over other women
3. fantasizing over things his wife will not do
4. out of resentment
5. selfish personal pleasure
6. just wants to empty himself out
All reasons are Inappropriate and very Selfish!!! Masturbation changes a man’s attitude. For instance when has a man ever masturbated and then went and cuddled with his wife and told her how much he loves and adores her? Get the point and there are many more points to be made. A chastity device will stop this!!! Again keeping him focused focused focused. A man should NEVER CUM W/O HIS WIFE being a part of it. I do not need to go into detail here; there are countless ways for a significant other to have her man cum, from the very kinky to the sweet and subtle. He will be forced to figure out how to communicate, of course with your guidance and support......
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Saying masturbation is bad is like saying eating between meals is bad. Of course you don't want to do it all the time, to the detriment of your partner, but a little private self satisfaction does nobody any harm, especially when your other half is ill, tired or for some other reason indisposed. I'd never consider penalising my guy, physically or verbally for this. It seems very disrespectful to me, and invasive of his privacy.

If someone's only masturbating though, and ignoring their partner's needs, then there is a bigger problem in the relationship than masturbation alone.

Originally Posted by soldatka

Saying masturbation is bad is like saying eating between meals is bad. Of course you don't want to do it all the time, to the detriment of your partner, but a little private self satisfaction does nobody any harm, especially when your other half is ill, tired or for some other reason indisposed. I'd never consider penalising my guy, physically or verbally for this. It seems very disrespectful to me, and invasive of his privacy.

If someone's only masturbating though, and ignoring their partner's needs, then there is a bigger problem in the relationship than masturbation alone.

Well, I have read this opinion before. It wasn't so much that he was masturbating, but it was how much he was masturbating. It was almost as much as we were having partner sex...and that is a lot. I just over analyze sometimes. I didn't mean to be unfair to him, but maybe I was and have been at times. For some people, masturbation is very private. I just didn't feel that way. He knows I know he does it. Maybe he enjoys it as much as partner sex, maybe he enjoys it more....but I can't control it, regardless. And I like my masturbation too at times. That's for sure. (I just wasn't masturbating very much until I found he was!)

Originally Posted by LoverofSEX

I have to admit I enjoy masturbation over sex but only a little bit. The hand, "Fleshlight", a "T" shirt on a pillow or any other means does not compare to the Virgina. It's so simple to go to bed a little early, masturbate tand fall asleep. It's called lazy, selfish, inconsiderate, and a lot of other things and what it boils down to is not fulfilling the husbandly duties of pleasing his mate, and life is short and we grow older by the second. A little porn and I am ready, all the porn is, is a catalyst for the action.

It's a selfish pleasure for sure. He may like it more for that reason. True.
He can indulge sometimes...I am okay with it. Big of me, eh? LOL.