Thread: I am new & need sex advice.

Originally Posted by apricot_tea

Thank you, thank you, thank you! I needed to hear all of those things, especially from an experienced woman such as yourself. I really appreciate your words & I've taken them to heart. :]

Much love honey, much love....This never goes away...We were as hot this afternoon as we were many years ago.....Actually more so....

My dear I have a site...I think that it is on my profile....When this happened to me and I searched for doctors to help, I was lead astray like you would never believe. Doctors knew nothing about the true sexuality of a woman...I could go on pages about this but it is the past...So I started a site to help women...No comments just the love of two people that are mad about each other....It is hot as we are hot...Today I wrote up of our wonderful love making this afternoon at 2:44 P.M. Spur of the moment hot sex......I have helped so many women and am the most humbled woman in the world.. If you can't find it, it is:

carolinesplaceonline.com....

I have no doubt you will find yourself and be all that you want to be...This site will help you find the path to a wonderful and hot sexual life.......Again my best...xx Caroline

Originally Posted by Uneeklyme

Lower sex drive...thats my point. OP feels her sex drive is low to non exhistant? That was basically my question in my statement assuming your asking for advice on how to boost it not how to wow him. She has already stated when they do have sex its good and I believe I mentioned time will make it better. That is, if its happening. Sex cant get better if your not having it. Talking to doctors and nurses can produce great results. They can run tests and suggest exorcises or other resources the general public have no idea even exhist. Her low sex drive could very well be medical. More often than not it is. Many times its low hormone levels or stress or fatigue like I mentioned. She herself talks of how her past relationship has made her wary. If its an emotional thing, its obviously interfering with her sex life and likely her marriage in general. You would be suprised with what their expertise are. Antidepressant maybe? Antianxiety medication? Sleep aid for fatigue? Supplements for anemia? I do believe I offered some sex tips as well geared more toward helping her boost her sex drive, I just didnt get graphic. MY CHOICE. If you don't want to get into a p*ssing match, dont read into what I write and start one. My response had nothing to do with you or Hy. If it did I would have singled you out with quotes.

I have a history of doctor's not knowing anything about the sexual woman...They sent me in circles...One big mouth nurse when she took me back asked me if I was back again asking about old age sex...She knew my story but a real wise mouth jerk.....Big mouth know it all broad...I told her "No, that I was going to write a GD book"....

I could go in circles with you about sex or whatever...I like to get graphic...Otherwise how are women going to learn...We are not born knowing how to make love and how to go down on a man and suck him off and tell him how to do us...This is the unspoken us that suffers for years holding it back and in pain not orgasming...I am bold because women like it....They do not know what to do and need help...Not the kind of medical that they can sometimes get at a clinic....So we will not get in a pis*ing match....And we will not read each other's posts...That is fine with me...I can handle that....

Everyone has brought up some very good points. So good that my perspective has been thoroughly changed. I think it's mainly because I know that most of you are much, much older than myself. So I definitely take your words seriously. I really appreciate it. :]

I do have to say that uneeklyme has brought up a good point; I am on antidepressants, & while that can be cause for a lowering of sex drive, I don't feel like that is the main issue. I really feel like it's stictly emotional, strictly psychological. Even if it was the ADs causing this discontentment, I refuse to tell myselft that I'll never be able to have a normal sex life again because of my decision to be on them. I think everything can be fixed if you put your heart & soul into it & I definitely want to fix this.

To Caroline: I will most definitely take a gander at your website. It sounds so interesting & coincidentally, I have a website of my own. The url is: apricot tea. It doesn't particularly involve sex, but it's my personal diary. I talk about a lot of things. :] If you're interested, be sure to stop in. I'm going to check out your space right now. & thanks again for your kind words. I really appreciate it!

Originally Posted by apricot_tea

Everyone has brought up some very good points. So good that my perspective has been thoroughly changed. I think it's mainly because I know that most of you are much, much older than myself. So I definitely take your words seriously. I really appreciate it. :]

I do have to say that uneeklyme has brought up a good point; I am on antidepressants, & while that can be cause for a lowering of sex drive, I don't feel like that is the main issue. I really feel like it's stictly emotional, strictly psychological. Even if it was the ADs causing this discontentment, I refuse to tell myselft that I'll never be able to have a normal sex life again because of my decision to be on them. I think everything can be fixed if you put your heart & soul into it & I definitely want to fix this.

To Caroline: I will most definitely take a gander at your website. It sounds so interesting & coincidentally, I have a website of my own. The url is: apricot tea. It doesn't particularly involve sex, but it's my personal diary. I talk about a lot of things. :] If you're interested, be sure to stop in. I'm going to check out your space right now. & thanks again for your kind words. I really appreciate it!

Each and every person here tries to help...Seeing your last post may I add this....I have been on anti-depressants for 14 years. At one time I was up to 150 mg. of Zoloft...My dosage now is 50 MG and will be until the day I die...A medication may say that this can cause something or other but it is up to the person that is taking it to decide if it will...I believe much of this is a mind game...I have a strong mind....You see I had to be like this...At 47 years old they took out my uterus and ovaries...A complete hysterectomy....I only had Premarin until three years ago...No other hormones...But I made myself sexual because I am married to a very good looking, sailor stud that was quite the catch...You are what you make yourself...xx C

P.S. I will be checking your diary...They are fun to do..

Originally Posted by CarolineWH

Each and every person here tries to help...Seeing your last post may I add this....I have been on anti-depressants for 14 years. At one time I was up to 150 mg. of Zoloft...My dosage now is 50 MG and will be until the day I die...A medication may say that this can cause something or other but it is up to the person that is taking it to decide if it will...I believe much of this is a mind game...I have a strong mind....You see I had to be like this...At 47 years old they took out my uterus and ovaries...A complete hysterectomy....I only had Premarin until three years ago...No other hormones...But I made myself sexual because I am married to a very good looking, sailor stud that was quite the catch...You are what you make yourself...xx C

P.S. I will be checking your diary...They are fun to do..

I am on 50mg of Zoloft as well. I have been for 6 months now. & again, I feel like it could be a factor, but I don't believe it is. I think what you said is right: you are what you make yourself. & I think it's completely possible to overcome the "stereotypes" of what a medication can & cannot do to you, just like everything else in this world (words, substances, people, etc.).

CW: I looked at your site & I LOVE it. I was just telling my husband (he is sitting on the couch watching television) that I find it so admirable & refreshing that you are well over your 40s & you are still able to engage in a healthy sex life. Even use dirty talk at that! It gives me so much hope, you don't even know, because I was raised to feel like sex should be something that is never really acknowledged; sort of like an underground thing. & to see you living so vivaciously is a great encouragement for a twenty year old like myself. Cheers! & I'll be frequenting your little space regularly!

Originally Posted by apricot_tea

I am on 50mg of Zoloft as well. I have been for 6 months now. & again, I feel like it could be a factor, but I don't believe it is. I think what you said is right: you are what you make yourself. & I think it's completely possible to overcome the "stereotypes" of what a medication can & cannot do to you, just like everything else in this world (words, substances, people, etc.).

CW: I looked at your site & I LOVE it. I was just telling my husband (he is sitting on the couch watching television) that I find it so admirable & refreshing that you are well over your 40s & you are still able to engage in a healthy sex life. Even use dirty talk at that! It gives me so much hope, you don't even know, because I was raised to feel like sex should be something that is never really acknowledged; sort of like an underground thing. & to see you living so vivaciously is a great encouragement for a twenty year old like myself. Cheers! & I'll be frequenting your little space regularly!

That is a pretty mild dose...I tried going down to 25 mg. about a year ago but I got that little panic deal so went back to the full dose..I realize that sometimes a panic attack can come just from the thought of not taking the full medication, so why mess around, so I don't....I figure I can't change what I can't change and this is part of me...Not the best part of me, but one that needs medication to help me stay calm....Honey, you may find in life that sometimes your own children can send you to the Gates of He*l and you have to fight your way back.....Life is funny....Sometimes you can look at this creation that was made out of so much love and wonder what happened....But it is part of my life and I accept....I guess that sometimes after you have been really hurt that you end up a much stronger and better person...I know that I am...

I love your site...But stop worrying about death...Think about life and love and happiness....Don't be scared...Look at me and my age...I never thought I would ever grow this old and now I find that this age is not old, it is young...What makes me furious is people that think I am old when I am not...If I am old then all I can say is that being old is not what people think it is...For my husband and I, it is the most wonderful and sexual place that we have ever been in, in our whole life...If it wasn't, I could not write of it...I cannot be sad and worry about something that I cannot control.....Every moment of the day we are busy.....Our life is wonderful and I never worry about something that I can never change...Nor should you...

I will be checking your site from time to time...I have you bookmarked...I am so happy you like my site...Sure I talk dirty...Started that three years ago...Gonna do that until the day I die...but only in the bedroom or on my site when I am filled with lust like I was today....When I leave that bedroom, I am a lady and he respects me like your man respects you....

It's been great talking to you and after seeing your site I know you much better...You are so young...with so much life ahead....enjoy every single minute of it....make them all count....too soon you blink and wonder where they have all gone.....I send you all my love...xx Caroline

P.S. Nice looking man you got.. but then he got a prize too...