Thread: The way I "taste"

Last night was horrible! My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 1/2 years. I have never had an orgasm with him-- i know that i am the problem because i can only get off from my own hand, or a vibrator. I've read a ton of books, seen a doctor and even tried to mutually masturbate with each other-- nothing. I know it's me I've been dealing with it forever.
Well last night we were getting it on and he was going down on me, I was so close to cumming, I couldn't believe it! Finally! I kept telling him how close I was and then soon after that he stopped. I asked him why he said " I can't just eat you for 20 minutes". I was shocked,hurt and so upset (by the way it was way shorter than 20 minutes). Needless to say I didn't want to be around him. He slept on the couch last night. We went to lunch this afternoon to talk about it and the truth came out. He said he loves going down on me- when he did it the other night for example he said it was great. Something about the way I "tasted" last night he said he couldn't take!! I didn't know what to say. He said that it has only happened a few times where I taste "that way"- I guess that's good for 3 1/2 years and all the times we do it (at least 2-3 times a week)) but still!! what could it have been? I had sushi for dinner with my girlfriends that evening. I heard that certain foods can affect the way you taste but that quick? we got done eating at around 10 p.m. and this occured with my b.f. at aournd 12-12:30 a.m. I even used one of those always cleansing wipes before he came over. I thought maybe that was it, but i put it on my arm and licked it to see if it had a taste and it doesn't . has anyone ever had this happen to them? I have good hygeine what the heck!!! i feel so awful about myself right now. i mean i appreciate his honesty but --geez!

Alot of factors can affect taste and smell too...
Yes, food is one thing but your right, probably not that quick.
About a week before you start your period the taste and smell start to get stronger. Your body preparing to shed the uterine lineing. The hormones increase and secretions increase. So, it may just be dependant on where your at in your cycle as well. Im told (by men) that although they love to give women oral sex, around this time it's not as pleasant for them. Some men have more sensitive tastebuds than others as well. It could also explain why you came closer to orgasm than other times as well. Hormonal changes. As far as the "just can't eat you for 20 minutes" comment. Uh...it takes some women even longer than 20 minutes. Was it just this time or is it like that all the time? If it was just this time and he was skirting the issue of taste, maybe he could have approached that a little differently.

Originally Posted by MichRN

Last night was horrible! My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 1/2 years. I have never had an orgasm with him-- i know that i am the problem because i can only get off from my own hand, or a vibrator. I've read a ton of books, seen a doctor and even tried to mutually masturbate with each other-- nothing. I know it's me I've been dealing with it forever.
Well last night we were getting it on and he was going down on me, I was so close to cumming, I couldn't believe it! Finally! I kept telling him how close I was and then soon after that he stopped. I asked him why he said " I can't just eat you for 20 minutes". I was shocked,hurt and so upset (by the way it was way shorter than 20 minutes). Needless to say I didn't want to be around him. He slept on the couch last night. We went to lunch this afternoon to talk about it and the truth came out. He said he loves going down on me- when he did it the other night for example he said it was great. Something about the way I "tasted" last night he said he couldn't take!! I didn't know what to say. He said that it has only happened a few times where I taste "that way"- I guess that's good for 3 1/2 years and all the times we do it (at least 2-3 times a week)) but still!! what could it have been? I had sushi for dinner with my girlfriends that evening. I heard that certain foods can affect the way you taste but that quick? we got done eating at around 10 p.m. and this occured with my b.f. at aournd 12-12:30 a.m. I even used one of those always cleansing wipes before he came over. I thought maybe that was it, but i put it on my arm and licked it to see if it had a taste and it doesn't . has anyone ever had this happen to them? I have good hygeine what the heck!!! i feel so awful about myself right now. i mean i appreciate his honesty but --geez!

I am sure it could be your body chemistry changing, hormones, etc.....However, I am wondering if maybe it was an excuse on his part. Maybe he just didn't want to do it anymore. If that is the case, I'd be really angry that he made me feel so bad about it. I guess you have to give him the benefit of the doubt and believe him. It's hard to say. You would know that better, of course.
If he tasted something *bad*, perhaps you can shower directly before sex from now on...When it is convenient. I know that is what I would do. That is up to you.

I am starting to think that this is his way of skirting the issue. I feel like I have told him over and over again that I need direct clit stimulation-which he will do. BUT the problem is that it turns him on so much and it takes me forever that he eventually loses his hard on. I'm starting to think he's just bored with it and I guess we need to just discuss if further.

Originally Posted by MichRN

I am starting to think that this is his way of skirting the issue. I feel like I have told him over and over again that I need direct clit stimulation-which he will do. BUT the problem is that it turns him on so much and it takes me forever that he eventually loses his hard on. I'm starting to think he's just bored with it and I guess we need to just discuss if further.

Yes. I guess you have to try to get him to talk about it.

i've never heard of a guy who doesn't like to go down on a girl....has anyone? it really upsets me to think that he just doesn't want to and never will.

could you possible be leaking urine and not know it cause that is my problem when i start getting to excited my bladder leaks a little and then it ruins it for him and me. did you ask him how it smelled? what the oder was? my suggestion is the same as above take a shower right before sex so your fresh.

does anyone know how long it takes for foods that may alter your body odor to leave the system completely?

Sounds like you should be p*ssed off. But maybe you should give him the benifit of doubt and just shower before he comes over. Get yourself fresh and smelling like a daisey. (I know I hate it when my wife taste stale.)
And if he still can't finish the job... Give him an ugghh, push him out of bed, grab your vibe and finish it yourself.