thing is tho its like my clit is dead, it just feels nothing at all and never changes like i have heard its meant to do, as i said i got to 41 before i even knew i had one and that was only because my doctor told me, i thought til then it was one of the many folds of skin down there

Keep seeking professional help till you get a straight answer. In the meantime we're here for you anytime you want to talk.

thanks but unfortunately due to the doctor lying to me about something and me complaning to her boss about it i got took of hte list so now have no access to any doctors at all

Just keep searching. There's a wealth of information on the internet.

Feel free to send me a private message anytime you want to just talk.

I have been reading over these posts on this thread...I really find them interesting...I should be writing my blog or doing a million things now that my husband is home from the hospital, but this subject intrigues me...

I have been married many, many years...YET at this late age in life this man completely drives me wild...Thinking of him tonguing me now makes me wet...But then I have not had sex in six days and it will be another 36 days before we will be able to really get it on...My question is why am I this hot sexual woman who orgasms from just thinking of what he does to me and so many women find a problem along this line?....The one thing that I can think of that makes any sense is that my husband drove me wild sexually from the first time he laid a hand on me...When he makes love to me, I can still go to that place in the car where he fingered me for the first time...I thrill thinking of all the things he did then and we do now...I relive the sexual smut that we had for each other...I dirty talk when and where it is hot...I have never forgotten to be his girlfriend and wife....I bend over extra long in the Great Room to have him make a play for me....It had never stopped...This is true from day one....I have remained his girlfriend and he my sailor....

Could it be that many women let their marriages go to h*ll by themselves?...Could they have forgotten to remember all the precious thing that got them here?...Could the orgasms that they used to feel in a parked car be long forgotten?....Could they have turned into stone because they let themselves turn into stone?...

As for me I do not imagine being with any movie star or play a visualize game in my head....Instead I play with the knowledge that this is my lover and I know what he can do to me...I know that a woman's clit is her clit...It is up to her to allow him to turn her on...That is done with her own thoughts going to some place in her mind that she had not deadened with her "I can't" saga...It is I can and I will...When you go into a therapist or doctor, both of whom know only by the books, you are asking for the magic cure all.....They all know only what they read...Testosterone, maybe once in a blue moon....Either you are in passion for this man and he turns you to mush or find what it is that you used to have and let it go....I have never had a time in my life when I have had a problem with orgasms...However, when the kids were younger it was harder cornering me to let it all hang out...BUT a woman has got to love sex to want sex...yet the true key to this statement is that a woman has got to sexually desire her husband to want to do all these sexual things with him to bring on her own orgasm.....Unless you dig him, and want to **** his brains out, this just "ain't" gonna happen....

Just my thoughts,

Caroline