Thread: Orgasm trouble

I have never once had an orgasm during sex.

Masturbation is never a problem, but during sex, I absolutely cannot have an orgasm.
I've had sex tons of times and multiple partners, thats not the issue.

Is there something wrong with me? Do some women just not have orgasms?

Have you had the big 'O' with oral sex? I know many women can't climax through intercourse alone.

Yes oral has worked for me, but only because biologically it pretty much has to. I dont enjoy oral and dont like it done. I would like to be able to have an orgasm through intercourse but it may just not be possible.....oh dear.

You say that you don't like oral...Why not? Is there an embarrassment issue? I believe that so many of these things can be tied up with a woman having an orgasm during sex...First of all, I believe that you have to be in heat over a man...Not casual sex but someone that makes your eyes cross when he fingers you...Thus when he does this and you love it so much this leads to oral sex....Do you give your man oral sex? Again is this a fair exchange and is there some hesitancy in it?...We women have got to be able to throw all our good girl thoughts out the window...This is so true of so many women...

You are right that many women don't orgasm, but I wonder of all of these women that don't could that have? I believe that any woman that really loves a man and can give of herself can find that place for this magic to happen....First of all I am older than dirt and been married a very long time but we are in heat for each other all the time....But I, as a woman, am able to go into myself and help bring my sexual parts alive by allowing myself the pleasure of sexual heaven.....I mean think dirty when he is in there eating you....Prepare yourself sexually for his entry into you....When he is in you, go somewhere in your mind if you have to...He is ******* your brains out and you are in the middle of a park, and you don't care....You love it....He pulled down your panties and exposed you to everyone, and you don't care if they look, as you are enjoying the joy that he is giving you as he is moving up and down inside you and your butt rises with the pleasure of this movement of lust as he thrusts inside you..Crowds are watching but you don't care....You are a woman being taken and loving it and you need this more than anything else in the world....You are thinking bad to be good....SO

Honey, this is where a woman MUST go for an orgasm....She has to...She has to play with her mind as this is a direct road to her *****...They go together....His hot sexual organ must be in her thoughts....She must embrace it to let herself go...Either all this is true or else I am the most misguided woman in the world who lives in lust....

I try and help women...Here I have gone out on the limb...I will probably be edited all over the Forum but so what....I tried and I hope you get my message....Much love to you in finding your pot of gold at the end of the rainbow...xx..Caroline

Well, you say you can orgasm while masturbating so have you tried clitoral stimulation while having intercourse? Maybe trying out different positions? I was right there with you on not being able to orgasm by intercourse alone but have found that clitoral stimulation by either myself or my partner works wonders. I also took the time while having intercourse to concentrate on what my body was feeling. I learned what I liked more and more and how to control my body in order to bring myself to orgasm through intercourse. I don't know if it will work for you but I found one trick for me that was tightening up my stomach muscles while we were going at it. There are tons of things that you can try. Also there are lubes that are made for g spot stimulation that have worked well for me in the past. It doesnt hurt to try new things. Try spicing things up with toys as well if you havent already.

OK so i can't get an "O" either. I have only had one and that was so long ago I really don't remember it. The guy I'm with is great in bed and I enjoy him going down on me but I get to a point where I think I am going to and nothing. Also before intercourse I get very wet but 10 15 minutes later I as dry as a sponge on the sun. What else can be done to try and "fix" this problem?

I cant either. Ugh... it's so frusterating. My boyfriend is the only guy that I've ever been with that actually cared about me getting my orgasm. So there was alot of foreplay in the beginning but we moved on to getting a toy. The bullet works great!! We always make sure I get mine before we have sex. Sometimes after I've had my orgasm and we start having sex it almost feels like I could get one during sex, but I haven't actually yet. I'm remaining optimistic. Someday.... maybe. For now though we'll be sure to get alot of practice time in. LOL.

You don't like oral. But you can have an orgasm from it?

If I didn't like masterbation. I wonder if I could have an orgasm that way?

Ummm........

A good way to orgasm is if your on top and tilt your hips forward! this lets your clit rub against his pelvic bone


thats a winner ^^^^

Originally Posted by shweedart

A good way to orgasm is if your on top and tilt your hips forward! this lets your clit rub against his pelvic bone


thats a winner ^^^^

The wife’s personal fav!

Last night for the first time she started to do all the moving. On each 'In' stroke, I would lift up my a off the bed, picking her up and forcing all her weight onto her clitoris. She began making sounds I hadn’t experienced before
Needless to say, she had her first Vaginal+Clitoral in almost 3 months!

Have fun.