Well the reason I said I wouldnt have full sex with the other girl is because I think thats where the jealousy would start. I would not want that to happen, so unless my girlfriend does something like put me inside the girl I wouldnt go for it. I dont have a problem with her making out with a girl or doing something with a girl if im there and of course the rules would need to be clear, I trust her we have been going out for 4 years. But the jealous part thats what im most worried about, as well as the after, if it would continue or not. Its impossible to know thats why I am looking for some advice.

Lots of people say leave it to the single crowd and I might agree, everyone says its risky and destroys relationship, of course we are not going to run into it his week or anything, it would be months away after we have talked about it for a long time. But hearing everyones opinion is nice to hear the full range of ideas on the topic.

I do this with my husband. It works for us. We dont do it alot...a few times a year. I really like it. I love being with a man and woman at the same time!

I have NO jealousy issues at all from it. He has never tried to pursue any of the women alone and he doesnt even find them..I do. This is just something that can REALLY enhance your sex life. My husband and I have the best, most awesome sex life imaginable! All because we explore our fantasies together but still are commited 10000000 % to each other. It has NEVER interefered with our relationship. We are going on 11 yrs. and have 3 chilren.

Its not for everyone. If you have a woman with jealous behavior then it is probably not for you guys but if she isnt a jealous woman then I would say GO FOR IT! I promise YOu will be so glad you did!! *-)

It is truly an awesome experience to be with a man and woman at once!! I mean, I cant even describe the intensity!! I say go for it!

I forgot to say this....But I dont see why people do a 3some and not do it FULLY......

That is the best part. To watch him completly turned on by another really sexy woman. I love that part!!!

WOOHOO!
But, seriously it is a real minefield. I don't think anyone else can know enough about your relationship to give good advice. It might be lots of fun for all concerned - it might be a disaster.

One arguement for doing it is that she may feel she is missing somethign if she doesn't try - and might be tempeted to look elsewhere.

As it appears to have stemmed from a "dream", then discussed with a view of reality, it's obviously a sub-conscious thought... So very possible.

I was thinking, seeing as you feel that you are in a very committed relationship.

There will always still be the pitfalls and reasons not to, but:-

Why don't you plan a getaway, an adventure, out of town, somewhere quite different and affordable and organise a lady "whom you will never see again", or "know" and have her join you on this adventure.

Write it as a "fantasy" on how you perceive it, having agreed the boundaries between each other and have her not know that fantasy, as it's her dream.. ie) This woman appears on the beach from no where, in other words doesn't just enter a room and walla...

Then that way, you both lived in a world of fantasy for a day, an adventure together and when you get back home, things are the way they were..

Mentally, taken in a completely different light.

In addition, i personally feel that if this was to be the way you handled it then boundaries are not as important per say and you both can discuss fully the different things that are okay with each other on it.

CW

I hate it when people come here to brag.

Just go for it. You see the pitfalls, this might be a one time opportunity.

Good luck... not that you are going to need it, you dog

Ha

I dont know, I am still unsure and there will be much thought that goes into it. If we can work things out just right it might happen but its still a long ways away. Most people say dont do it its dangerous to the relationship and thats a pretty huge concern. I wouldnt want anything bad to happen that was unexpected so really its between the lady and I to come to some agreement.

It is not that easy to decide...

Threesome rules

*Guys, climax in your wife. Unless she specifically says ahead of time she wants to to finish in/on the other girl.

*Plenty of fresh towels. And clean that bathroom.

*Babysitters.

*cellphones off

*condoms on insertables, or different toys for each person

*don't get sloppy drunk

*It never hurts to be polite

"may I lick your butt?"
"Of course you may, thank you for asking."

*IMHO 3-somes work best if it can be decided who is going to be the "center of attention", then have the other two working in tandem on the same person. Work in shifts otherwise somebody's the 3rd wheel thats always getting jammed in the wrong place. Your gonna have a bad time.

*In a MFM 3-way make sure M1 and M2 establish their own boundaries before anything gets started. If M2 is expecting a reach-around and M1 isn't comfortable taking his socks off around around M2 you're gonna have a bad time.

*co-workers make awful 3rd persons

*Guys, refrain from cornball porno lines

"Ladies, theres enough pork-sword for everyone!"
", I knew it was my lucky day."
"Aww-yeah.... come to papa."
"I'm getting to old for this sh**."