Thread: PORN friend or foe

I thought this subject might get many talking.

I have read many posts about porn being very harmful to relationships (I agree) and others where it is suggested to spice things up (I also agree).

Is porn only ok if both people in the relationship are enjoyimg it and watching it together?
Is it never ok?
It seems to be discussed as a tool but also destructive.
Just wondering about others thoughts on this can of worms.

tt

there are about 300,000 american children currently that have been sold into commercial sex trade.

12 is the average age of a girl forced into prostitution.

1 of every 5 pornographic images on the internet is of a child.

if there were no demand - there would be no product (victim). people's tastes are turning to younger & younger porn. at best, it's 18 year olds who look 12. at worst, it's 12 year olds.

it's destroying families & twisting the sexual development of children. kids who currently are raised on this sh*t actually think it's normal to treat each other the way pornographers have shown them.

we could spend an entire day uncovering the ing evidence against porn - and still just scratch the surface.

i'd love to see just one piece of evidence that supports porn as a healthy endeavor - for the viewer or the participants.

other than people just think it's fun.

Originally Posted by whilhelm

t

it's destroying families & twisting the sexual development of children. kids who currently are raised on this sh*t actually think it's normal to treat each other the way pornographers have shown them.

Who raises their kids on porn?

you will get lots of opinions on this - and the various parties will never agree. FWIW, in my opinion:

Porn is fine if both partners watch and enjoy it - it may provide some new ideas to spice up the bedroom.

Porn is ok if one partner watches, if the other doesn't mind, and if it doesn't use up much time.

Porn is not ok if one partner finds it offensive, or if one (or both) watch it to excess and or are addicted.


I think the great majority of porn is not abusive. These days a lot is posted on the internet by exhibitionists who like the idea of other people watching them have sex. Some semi-commercial porn is posted by couples who want to make a little money on the side.

I'm sure there is some abusive porn, but it is fairly rare. SM porn might seem abusive, but there are a lot of real masochists out there (I know one), who really do enjoy that sort of thing (within reason).

I don't know the source for Whilhelms statistics, they do not agree with anything I have seen. My impression was that child porn was generally distributed within very limited groups - it is so very illegal in almost all of the world that only a complete idiot would distribute on the open market - and would soon be picked up the the police.

Originally Posted by talk time

I thought this subject might get many talking.

I have read many posts about porn being very harmful to relationships (I agree) and others where it is suggested to spice things up (I also agree).

Is porn only ok if both people in the relationship are enjoyimg it and watching it together?
Is it never ok?
It seems to be discussed as a tool but also destructive.
Just wondering about others thoughts on this can of worms.

tt

Here is my honest answer....because I am a human being...imperfect as I am. I have a *bit* of a double standard going. I love to watch porn with my husband, I like to watch alone (on occasion) for masturbation....but I am still a little jealous when my husband watches it alone for masturbation. I guess I have figured out I like to be there when he is having an orgasm and want to *help*. I want to be part of all his sexual feelings/thoughts....and I am not. Oh well....I can't always have it my way.
I think porn is for consenting adults....period.

Originally Posted by rcoreyus

Porn is fine if both partners watch and enjoy it - it may provide some new ideas to spice up the bedroom.

Porn is ok if one partner watches, if the other doesn't mind, and if it doesn't use up much time.

Porn is not ok if one partner finds it offensive, or if one (or both) watch it to excess and or are addicted.

I feel the same way on this as rcoreyus.

In general, I think it does more harm than good. Sure with an open couple who together view porn can acquire some new avenues of sexual ideas, however, it can be highly addictive and also can give one an unrealistic expectations of sex.

I pretty much agree with all that everyone has said. Kiddy porn is an absolute NO GO. I think porn watching as a couple can be fun and I'm fine about watching it seperately as well as long as it doesn't get addictive and become the sole sexual focus of one party to the exclusion of the other, which is what I have read in many other posts here. This can be very damaging.

I think this though is about respecting your partner and them respecting your feelings too.

tt

Originally Posted by talk time

I pretty much agree with all that everyone has said. Kiddy porn is an absolute NO GO. I think porn watching as a couple can be fun and I'm fine about watching it seperately as well as long as it doesn't get addictive and become the sole sexual focus of one party to the exclusion of the other, which is what I have read in many other posts here. This can be very damaging.

I think this though is about respecting your partner and them respecting your feelings too.

tt

Exactly. You have it right, IMO!

Whilhelms statistics are flawed, remember 76.8% of statistics are made up to prove your point.

I'd point out that the sexslave trade existed long before pornography, but since Whilhelm is no longer around to defend his silly claims there's no point, I'll just assume that none of you were listening to him anyway.

Basically, I agree with rcoreyus, with the addition that if the girlfriend dislikes porn, but doesn't give her man enough sexual attention, then she shares the responsibility for him watching it. If someones sexually neglected, they can be expected to get their kicks elsewhere.