I never fantasize during sex with my sailor....but I plan on doing a lot of that in the next 36 days with Eric my Eroscillator...Hip replacements take a long time to heal....Making love with my husband, we are so sexually into each other that sometimes we are like a sexual story in motion....The dirty talking, the woman who tells him these bold things that make our love making so animal like and erotic...With my high sexual wants, I have truly awakened him and drive him wild...There is no place for a fantasy to fit into our bed with us....What and who we are does not end there....It continues wherever we are....Maybe the twinkle in my eye or the casual feel of my butt with his hand as he passes me.....He has that power over me to awaken me to all the woman that I am or can ever be..and this makes me yearn for him.....

Sometimes I try and search my soul trying to figure out how and why I got here.....And the only answer that I can get is the intense and hot sexual love that we have for each other.....We have never let it die from day one....

Please forgive for the lengthy post filled with so many private thoughts of love.....It has been a rough 6 days....Take care, Caroline

Sorry to hear it's been a rough few days, Caroline....
It is nice to know you have such a great relationship. I am sure that makes for a lot of happiness for you...
I know because I am also very happy in my relationship...and very much in love.
I don't think fantasies have much to do with if someone is in love/happy or not though. Some people seem to *need* it (fantasies) for arousal more than others. Some people don't at all. I have had periods when I do not fantasize at all. It runs in spurts or periods of time in my life. My husband does not talk about his fantasies much, but I know he has them....and I have some too. I think it's natural for some people.
I have read there are some people who simply cannot get off without doing it!

Thanks...Surgeries get so much more scary as you age....Both for you and your partner...Funny thing this aging thing...

When I was younger, like most of you women I would definitely fantasize more...But I was different than I am now...Not that I was not sexual, as I was, but it was like you really had to work to get with the program and find your orgasm...Like all women, I would give up and say, "just stick it in"...Sounds bad, but that is what would happen. Not all of the time, but when I would get stressed...Stress can kill a relationship and with having kids, there is much stress....It was after the kids left the nest that we really went back to yesterday and became that special "couple" again...Oh, we were always in love, but I mean "steam heat" again...

Once during sex I asked my husband if he fantasized during sex and he said NO...But then if he asked me if I did, I would have probably said NO too....Would have been a lie, but just would have had to live with a longer nose like Pinocchio rather than letting him know this...

Age is both a damming thing and special......But try as I may you just can't find your way around it....Take care, Caroline

I'm going to be a real party pooper and say that i agreed with Mildred I mean Milfred, Miffed, something like that.

I prefer fantasies to be a thing you do together, rather than think ......

I fantasize during sex but it's an out loud thing and we both do it. We're talkers and neither of us is the jealous type. We talk about whatever dirty thoughts are in our head. Sometimes it's talking about other sexual encounters we've had either together or with other people or together with other people (lol). Sometimes we talk about people we want to have sex with and what exactly we'd do with them. Or situations we'd like to have. Nothing is wrong or bad or too dirty.

When I'm taking care of my own business, I fantasize about some of the same things but some things I only think about when I'm alone.

Fantasies are healthy and fun and thrilling. And they're just that ... fantasies.

Hi Stargazer,

This makes me wonder why some people are jealous and others aren't! Actually, I am a lot less jealous of my husband than I use to be. I still do get more jealous when it involves someone in *real time*, *real life*. I guess it means you are more secure in your relationship when you can be that open. I am happy for you!

The only time I fantasize is when I am trying not to come too soon. The fantasy usually involves something like the cops breaking down the door or watching a very boring ball game or something like that.
It usually does not work and only makes me horny when I see a cop with a battering ram....( kidding .)
However, I often wonder what the wife is thinking about when she is on top, has her head held high, looking up with her eyes closed and she reaches climax. Hummm...maybe I'll ask her next time.

Chou.