Thread: masterbating vs. sex with hubby

Well try as I might I can not get my wife off I have tried and we are in our 38th year. I bought her all kinds of vib's. to no avail, then I bought her "The Cone" works every time she lets me know when she is ready for my part and after some foreplay, oral and away we go to satisfy my needs. Could still masturbate later if I go look at porn, or if I need some extra exercise I get in between. That's the Q on "Who services Who?? Does it feel as good to her as it does to me?

But what is the price for all this pleasure????

More orgasms?

A happy woman?

The face of the lover changes...Soon, like Porn, he cannot fulfill her needs and the vibrator becomes No.1....For many women a hot vibrator and .....

Well.........I see that you have a point. But......Everyone wants pleasure. And this can provide more.

It's not like i'm saying she needs to bring another guy in.

large dildo can do one heck of a trick.

O, and hopefully it isn't too large. I'm getting inimidated.

lmao!

And libido's can change. If not, then explain why women's sex drive goes up when there nearly 40. And a man's does the opposite.

inimidated.

Intimidated.

That is what I meant to say.

The way I see it the more orgasms you have and know how to get the more desire you have to try for them. My partner and I use toys to ENHANCE sex sometimes, sometimes we don't. He happens to enjoy vibrations along his shaft so sometimes we use toys on just him. Sometimes on just me. Sometimes simultaneous. (the cone is awesome BTW) I in no way have felt any less desire for my partner. I love having sex with him. I love the way he feels, tastes, smells, touches, whimpers, moans, pants...whatever. Our toys don't detract or distract from that. Sometimes he likes to watch me. Says he loves the expressions on my face and has even learned a few things about me and my body responses from watching me with toys or watching me masturbate. Watching him is incredible for me as well. In paying attention, I have learned how he REALLY likes to be stroked or licked or touched in certain ways and such. All of this and we still have raw, passionate sex without toys. In total abandon we use our tongues and fingers and bodies to please each other. When your man comes in while your getting ready for work and says something like I cant wait and bends you over the sink...not a toy in sight...

I have a higher drive than my partner so I supplement with toys. I find that it just makes me want it (sex) more. Keeps me "trained" so to speak. (Heh, miffed) I dont have any desire for ultra kinky sex or am not looking for more extreme sex acts to try. Plain ole vanilla sex works just as well for me as anything else so in the thinking that one extreme leads to more extreme...I have to disagree. If you have a fantasy that you only act out with a sex toy what are the chance of it ever maybe coming true so hiding with your toy is kinda counterproductive in a way. Toys can be used as one of those nonverbal cues to I want this, see, this is how I like it or this is what I want you to try.

Absolutely correct. Nothing like the real thing. God made beautiful men for us WOMEN.

And thank God he made Women,, my hand is always there for my attached toy but it only dose it so far, the love I feel, the sounds she make, the verbal lines I say to her don't get that with a pillow..... I can make noises with the pillow but it doesn't reply.

Whats wrong with using a Vibrator when you have traditional sex? We do it more often then not and DH has no problem with it. In fact he often moves it around to stimulate him better.

If there is a better position then face to face intercourse with a Hitachi Magic Wand vibrator stuck between your pubes I don't know what it is!?

It is possible to get sort of addicted to the strong stimulation of a vibrator and not be able to orgasm without one. That may be fine - nothing wrong with including toys in you sex life - though it can be a bit of a problem if you travel and only have carry-on luggage .