masterbating vs. sex with hubby

**elle36** · 07-12-2008 09:12 AM

Hello everyone. I recently posted a while back about sex toys and vibrators. Well i bought a few and my husband and i used then during foreplay. It was WONDERFUL!!!!! I found out that I get more of an orgasm through clit stimulation. I have done it a few times by myself. Now I am worried that I wont be able to have an orgasm with my husband on insertion. The orgasm with a vibrator on my clit its so much more intense! I am also afraid that the more i do it alone then i wont want my hubby or need him to help me. Any input?

C · 07-12-2008 10:01 AM

Yes, I did a blog on this last night...Have to clean it up as I did it late in the evening...My husband had a hip replacement surgery around two weeks ago...He will be sexually inactive for a good six weeks...Then it will be mild sex to start and then believe me in time "get it done"...

Because of this I have had to use Eric my Eroscillator...Eric and I are meeting every other night when my husband is asleep...He is jealous of Eric so I only do this in the Guest Room when he is sleeping...Eric gives me a powerful and mind boggling orgasm...Sometimes I completely saturate the bath mats BUT nothing like man...The orgasms are different...Only living where I live now in this land of "no hot ****" do I know what I am missing...And believe me I am missing it...

A woman needs man...A machine can stimulate her and work her clit but a man can lick her, suck her, finger her, suck her boobs and finally invade that most precious part of her and make her cum with the passion of a woman that is losing her soul to the devil......God, how I miss it...

Hope this answers your questions....I am crying writing it....TC, C

**jonny** · 07-12-2008 11:40 AM

Originally Posted by elle36

I am also afraid that the more i do it alone then i wont want my hubby or need him to help me. Any input?

So the vibrator is better than hubby? If it is, there probably isn't anything that can change that with just regular intercoure.

It could be used during regular sex with your guy. Which would probably make things more intense.

That and knowing that it gives you that extra boost you need to get off might take some of the responsiblity off hubby, and you can just let him do his thing while your viberator does your thing.

Everyone wins in the end.

Orgasms and all.

C · 07-12-2008 11:59 AM

Originally Posted by jonny

So the vibrator is better than hubby? If it is, there probably isn't anything that can change that with just regular intercoure.

It could be used during regular sex with your guy. Which would probably make things more intense.

That and knowing that it gives you that extra boost you need to get off might take some of the responsiblity off hubby, and you can just let him do his thing while your viberator does your thing.

Everyone wins in the end.

Orgasms and all.

Seeing you are not a woman you have no idea of what a woman feels internally during orgasm...How long will this extra boost last? Why should there be an extra boost needed? This is the person that you fell in love with and years ago...He drove you wild then and still should...Even with this new implement, the orgasms will get harder and harder to find and the closeness that once was could be lost....

I have heard stories of women that need a clit vibrator going while their husband is inside of them to orgasm...How long will this way of sexual contact last? Boredom will again set in and they can't even orgasm this way....One thing should not replace the other....Just my thoughts...

**SorridLives** · 07-12-2008 05:39 PM

Originally Posted by jonny

So the vibrator is better than hubby? If it is, there probably isn't anything that can change that with just regular intercoure.

It could be used during regular sex with your guy. Which would probably make things more intense.

That and knowing that it gives you that extra boost you need to get off might take some of the responsiblity off hubby, and you can just let him do his thing while your viberator does your thing.

Everyone wins in the end.

Orgasms and all.

I second this.

C · 07-12-2008 05:50 PM

Originally Posted by SorridLives

I second this.

I will agree with you that if this is necessary go with it...But the problem that comes up so many times is that the partner so often gets frustrated that he alone cannot stimulate the woman enough...Why must she have something else helping her? He did this to her long ago and she loved it and why not now.. How long will this vibrator do the trick before the thrill of this wears off? It does you know...Anything that is used too much becomes a habit...The part stimulated can sometimes be difficult to wake up...If you are able to just use body parts to stimulate each other before penetration this is the way to go...Don't cross over unless you have to...I know some women cannot orgasm from just the thrill of their partner...But be careful with the vibrator in bed with man....Just my thoughts on this...

Originally Posted by jonny

So the vibrator is better than hubby? If it is, there probably isn't anything that can change that with just regular intercoure.

It could be used during regular sex with your guy. Which would probably make things more intense.

That and knowing that it gives you that extra boost you need to get off might take some of the responsiblity off hubby, and you can just let him do his thing while your viberator does your thing.

Everyone wins in the end.

Orgasms and all.

Jonny: In my post I did not mean to put you down in any way....I guess I really don't know what some women feel as far as orgasms anymore than you do...Each of us is different...Seeing I can only speak about myself and because I do not use these during sex, it is best I bow out of this thread or any thread pertaining to this...Again, I am sorry if I offended you....Take care, Caroline

I'm going to have to agree with Caroline, and Jonny here.

I'll get shot for saying it's "man made" but it is, vibrators, or what ever you want to use as a "substitute" to me, is exactly that, or should be exactly that, a substitute.

A substitute for times when you are on your own, not if you have options to use the real thing

I do know that the agruement is but, you have no idea CW, you haven't tried it during sex, it's fun, it adds etc, etc, etc...

But we are only talking personal choices and opinions.

I would rather be tied up, blindfolded, anything sexual with a partner, with our bodies and minds, adventure, positions, what ever, than to bring a toy into the situation for "added".. I'd rather let my mind go totally and allow us to have that "pleasure" together in bodies...

A man noting that he is "a man" from the fact you can get it all, and from him in bed, table, where ever, feels more like a man, than one whom watches and participates whilst you as a woman get a "better" feeling from rubber...

Go, quick, tell me i'm wrong, cause i'm not, nor are you, it's all a matter of opinion.

Yes, i'm a female, true... lol.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 07-12-2008 07:15 PM

OOPS:- And Sorrid Lives.... as she agreed as well...

**SorridLives** · 07-12-2008 07:20 PM

Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

OOPS:- And Sorrid Lives.... as she agreed as well...

LOL...Thanks for the credit on that one.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 07-12-2008 07:25 PM

Originally Posted by SorridLives

LOL...Thanks for the credit on that one.

Sarcasm in a "fun way" is LOL... Well you agreed with the first line anyways...

**littlethumper** · 07-12-2008 10:41 PM

Originally Posted by CarolineWH

A woman needs man

Absolutley correct. Nothing like the real thing. God made beautiful men for us WOMEN.

Originally Posted by CarolineWH

invade that most precious part of her and make her cum with the passion of a woman that is losing her soul to the devil...

, girl! You killed me with that. I mean really did a number on my psyche. You have GOT to be a writer. A poet, or romance writer, or something. Tell me I'm right.

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