To start off, i'm a guy, 17, and i've been with my girlfriend for about a year, she's 19. History is she's had a lot of nerve damage to certain body parts and has been on quite a bit of meds (due to a mom who thinks anything and everything is wrong with her).

Now, the reason i'm here. I can't get her to orgasm. I have gotten previous girlfriends to, so I know i'm not useless, but in this case i'm stumped. She's never masterbated, and she says she's really not wanting to. Her nipples and clit are basically numb. And as far as oral goes....She hates the idea. I have searched darn near every inch of her vagina for a g-spot, and no response other than what I normally get. (is it possible she doesn't have one?) She was a virgin before me, so it's not like I'm working with someone who knows exactly what she likes.... Sure she says sex feels good, my fingers/"unit" will make her smile ear to ear, it's just that she won't orgasm.

I'm completely lost, and to be honest I feel like i'm a failure because she makes me feel amazing but I'm unable to return the favor, so to speak. I'm talking to her about seeing a doctor (OB/GYN) but it's a bit hard in the spot we're curently in. I'd really appreciate any advice this forum can give.

My deepest gratitude,
NotQuiteThere

Well, lots and lots of factors are probably at play. First off, she isn't a sexual person (yet), she hasn't explored herself etc. She probably doesn't really think that she can enjoy sex that much, and she obviously has inhibitions (as in not wanting oral sex).

So, firstly, she's going to have to get into the idea of having and enjoying sex.

Secondly, she really needs to relax, if she's not really relaxing a whole lot then orgasms are unlikely.

Get her a toy, or something which can be used as such, and get her to have a few ogasms with that, once she knows she can orgasm and that she likes it, take the pressure off and they'll be more likely.

So yeah, pressure is a bad thing.

As far as I'm aware the g-spot is always in the same place.... Palm facing up, insert a finger and bend it upwards, the ridgy bit is the g-spot...

Finally, you shouldn't feel like a failure, unless you're being a rubbish and unattentive lover. In which case obviously you need to work on it. Girls seem to need time to get into sex, so just give her that time, patience, support etc.

You're obviously pleasing her already, but it sounds like she might be too self-conscious and embarassed to "let herself go" with the feelings she's getting. Maybe she was brought up thinking sex is "bad". Give it time and when she realises it's not an issue and that you are consistent in your attention towards her she'll stop fighting it. If you're right and she is too numb to feel enough to orgasm, then as long as she's okay with it so should you be. Don't put any pressure on her- or yourself. I'm sure you're not useless. Take note of anon's advice regarding the g-spot, that might help. Good luck x