Thread: oral sex

my ex fiance loved to do nothing more than to go down on me but we have since broken up and my new bf just HAAAATES the idea of it. its the only way i can have an orgasm and my bf is sooo grossed out by the thought of it...he hates watching it in adult movies and he refuses to if i ask. he's also very new to long term relationships and sexual exploration between couples. i don't want to push him into it but i mean.. i really miss it :[ i think the best way would be to ease him into it.. but idk how to start easing him.

any ideas?

Dump him.

It's not worth being sexually unsatisfied. Plenty of fish in the sea that can actually please a woman.

if you refused to give him a hand job/head im sure he'd have something to say about that

My boyfriend didnt like it at first but he done it for me and now he's always down there and he loves it!


If your mans not prepared to satisfy you then...well, he's no man

does he know its the only way you can come?

heh i think hes worth staying with. i've only orgasmed like.. twice from sex and hes the only one to do it. to orgasm with sex is such a loooong process... omg takes forever and it seems like hes working so hard to do it haha. in all honesty hes the absolute best guy i've ever been with... i think thats the only thing i've come across that he wasnt willing to do without me putting up a fight. i know he'll do it in time.... when i started being sexually active i thought ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwww blow job?! gross, im not doing that. and now i like to do it, so i just need a few ideas not to get him to do it, but to get him around my vag with his face =)

If he has an "ewwww" problem, make sure you are absolutely completely clean first, until he gets used to it. Also, get him really aroused before you ask him to do you.

Take him back to the highschool you found him at.

Originally Posted by SinisterUrge

Take him back to the highschool you found him at.

yeaaaaa stuff like this isn't helpful.

How old is he? Is he trainable? ;-) One approach is just telling him that your not reaching climax with what he is doing. And tell him that he can have 'sex' after he gets you off. After a very short while he is going to be very receptive to what turns you on.

Take a shower (with him?) so he knows your sparkly clean.

Then repeat after me (And yes you really have to SAY it)

Higher
Lower
To your left
To your right
Harder
Faster
Don't stop what your doing!

Don't be quiet when your showing a man how to go down on you. You either "train him right" and enjoy sex of you pray he accidently hits the right spot long enough for you to climax.

After a while of him doing oral sex then intercourse he may ask you if he "needs" to do this every time. Thats when you say its ok with you if he does oral sex after intercourse.

;-)

Um sorry, I'm confused... first post you said oral sex is the only way you can orgasm and in another you said "i've only orgasmed like.. twice from sex and hes the only one to do it."

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Originally Posted by msmiz

my ex fiance loved to do nothing more than to go down on me but we have since broken up and my new bf just HAAAATES the idea of it. its the only way i can have an orgasm and my bf is sooo grossed out by the thought of it...he hates watching it in adult movies and he refuses to if i ask. he's also very new to long term relationships and sexual exploration between couples. i don't want to push him into it but i mean.. i really miss it :[ i think the best way would be to ease him into it.. but idk how to start easing him.

any ideas?

Well what I would do is while he was sleeping, get on top of his face and rub yourself on his lips.

But then again that risks him waking up and freaking out or something so maybe that's not a good idea. Maybe he wouldn't be comfortable with you molesting him in his sleep.. But I'd find it exciting! lol.

Hmm.. Well I don't know - that sucks!

Maybe just ask him if there's anything he wants YOU to try for him? He probably likes blow jobs right - I'd say well I ain't putting my mouth on you unless you put your mouth on me - deal? Cuz that would make everybody happy right - Maybe do it in the shower so you're both clean.
And if he expects you to do what HE wants but yet won't do this for you - that isn't cool at all. I'd try to talk to him about it - tell him how unfair it is.