Thread: sex with a paraplegic

Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

Like anything in life.

If you have a goal and you persue that goal, eventually it will happen, or at least that is what i believe.

It would be wicked to go from A - Z, no matter what you set out to achieve and you have obviously achieved something that you aimed at doing.

Well done.

But, now aim at all the other goals you have.... Can't stop now.

you are right... lets say that there is no benefit to stop at this stage ...

In my opinion, we're all handicapped to some degree. Some of us have a handicap like being paraplegic. Others have a mental or emotional handicap. Others have a variety of other handicaps. Basically we're all broken individuals to some extent. Nobody's perfect.
I think the key for you darkdefender is to find the right person for you. Hopefully you will be able to find the person who is a MATCH for you. In the same way that they will be your dream girl, you will be their dream man. It might be that a woman has grown up with men who were harsh and cruel...and here you are, the kindest, gentlest person in the world. Perfect match for her.

You've just got to find the perfect match for YOU, and you need to "poise" yourself to be the perfect match for her when you meet her.
Cheers.

I suppose a relatively pointless bit of advice would be when you're around women, don't act hateful and resentful of your situation, as it's difficult to love someone who doesn't love themself, and to be honest the "courage and strength of will" that that would display would be a strong quality that women look for.

I'm not sure if this has already been said, but I dont think you will have a huge hassle with women... Talking from my view, I look for personality and my only issue would be curiousty. Would I be brave enough to ask 'can you still have sex? I would like tosay it is't everything but it is somewhat. I think the best way to meet women with out the issues standing out would be speed dating where the women move and the men sit. At least then it isn't the first thing that is spoken about in a conversation. They wouldn't even know until after the dating really... I'm not saying lie but put you in the same situation as everyone else.

I hope this came across in the right way and that it was helpful


phlc

Originally Posted by purplehorselikecreature

I'm not sure if this has already been said, but I dont think you will have a huge hassle with women... Talking from my view, I look for personality and my only issue would be curiousty. Would I be brave enough to ask 'can you still have sex? I would like tosay it is't everything but it is somewhat. I think the best way to meet women with out the issues standing out would be speed dating where the women move and the men sit. At least then it isn't the first thing that is spoken about in a conversation. They wouldn't even know until after the dating really... I'm not saying lie but put you in the same situation as everyone else.

I hope this came across in the right way and that it was helpful


phlc

Hey Everyone,
Thanks for all your replies
Indeed, that was really encouraging ... I went out with another conclusion which is that when we have problems we get paranoid about ourselves and that touches our self-confidence level which leads at the end to no where...
As you say there are many things important in life that will fill the place of other things ...
by the way ... what do you mean by speed dating where the woman moves and the man sit?