Thread: arousal, how do you know you are (females)

Originally Posted by littlethumper

YEAH. Foxy daddies.

Ow ow!

Originally Posted by littlethumper

Vasocongestion: swelling of bodily tissues caused by increased vascular blood flow and localized increase in blood pressure.

Oh yes I forgot 'bout the heart pounding.

ok so this stuf that goes on am i meant to know or feel it happening then or what?

Well you might be feeling lots of things but not be able to put the feelings into words. You might just describe a particular sensation during arousal as feeling "nice" or "tingly" or "tickly" or whatever. But you've got to be relaxed and enjoying some part of it to allow yourself to be aroused.

If you really don't feel anything when you have sex, it's could be down to your man's technique, selfishness in bed or whatever you want to call it,


or- could be a physiological problem you have, which prevents you feeling in certain areas,


or- psychological due to some form of past sexual trauma?

nop e no nice tingley or tickly feelings at all just poking prodding and general jumping around from him

Originally Posted by dawn2

nop e no nice tingley or tickly feelings at all just poking prodding and general jumping around from him

Hi,
From the above, I think you don't want to feel aroused ('jumping around from him').You don't want to feel what everyone is telling you. You have managed to block out what was inbuilt in you to enjoy sex. It is a mental block, it is psycological and you need help (paid for or not)!
You have tuned your mind to be anti-sex for 6 weeks too long and now it thinks it is natural not to feel aroused (a habit is formed in just 6 weeks).

The nice thing is God gave us the power of will. The human spirit is so powerful it can change ALL situations (good and bad) to the way we want. Read the 'The Secret' by Rhonda Byrne. No one can help you but your brain.

If you want to feel something, let him touch you without a fight or jumping around. Let your mind allow him and you to feel all his touches.

My Dear, we can give you suggestions till we get big Os from our own advise, but you are the one who has to accept them and implement to change your life.

Until you deal with your psycological/mental state towards sex, you will never enjoy it! Sad truth.

Thanks Sweet Lady.

It's definately psychological, if you keep ignoring that there's no chance of you improving but you have great chances of wasting all of our time. If you haven't felt it yet, you can't feel it with your current state of mind, so guess what? You have to change it.

The fact that you have never ever slightly even closely craved any sort of physical contact is entirely not condusive to sexual pleasure. Full stop, end of discussion, etc etc.