Thread: Do you remember all your firsts?

Originally Posted by anonymouswhitefemale

The naivity of young women and mens taste for fresh bodies is a dangerous cocktail no? I don't understand why any young girl doesn't wonder about some older guys motives. Not saying anything about you, just the state of the world...

Well I think that lots of young girls just want to be 'loved' for whatever reason. They trust the guy that says those words because 'why would he lie??' Some girls want to grow up too quickly but in my case I had such an awful family life and never felt wanted, let alone loved. So when a 21 year old wanted to be with me and told me he loved me, took me home to meet his mum etc etc I fell for him hook line and sinker.

Originally Posted by maz33

Well I think that lots of young girls just want to be 'loved' for whatever reason.

I think you've hit the nail on the head with that comment. At 22 I'm still looking for 'love' in sex Its completely but I can't seem to break the cycle

[QUOTE=Pimsticks;47191]I think you've hit the nail on the head with that comment. At 22 I'm still looking for 'love' in sex Its completely but I can't seem to break the cycle [/QUOTE


Personally I think it starts right from childhood. Every case is different of course, some kids decide to rebel even when they have the most secure and loving family caring for them. For others it's just that dangerous cocktail of hormones, peer pressure and circumstance that leads them astray...

More often than not though, in my opinion, it's the girls who have been brought up in dysfunctional families that will go off the rails with older boys, looking for love and craving attention. Girls can be all too willing to lower their standards and sell themselves short if they haven't been 'taught' that they are loved, respected and worth so much more.

Of course, all kids need loving, caring, respectful, understanding parents with whom they can talk about anything but GIRLS ESPECIALLY need both parents to teach them how valued they are as a person so that they are not so ready to give themselves away to any guy that wants them and so that they can grow to be respectable, responsible adults.

My family allowed me to be bullied and beaten up by my brother, treated me as if I should be seen and not heard (preferably not seen either haha), my dad didn't speak to any of us and my mum treated me like a skivvy and my brothers like gods!!! Yes woe is me, I know.

I could have used my experience in a positive way and kind of faught back by not letting it affect and control me but unfortunately I was one of the weaker ones. All my strength and hope had been taken away from me before I was 10.

God only knows how I didn't become a single parent because that's the next step... "a baby will love me unconditionally and I will love it and we'll live in a fairytale bubble".


Anyway I hope some of that makes sense

You're so right with everything you say Maz. It's great you have such a good understanding of it all, hopefully it'll help you with your kids/future kids!

I'm sorry to hear you had such a rough time I don't know how you feel about it all but I kinda try and think that our experiences were worthwhile because we wouldn't be the people we are today, and we wouldn't have the ability to help others in similar situations had we never been through it.

My upbringing was pretty good until I hit 11 and my parents divorced - it was very, very messy! I don't think that was the sole reason I went off the rails but I think it contributed to it.

Oh and I was one of the ones that became a single parent because... 'a baby will love me unconditionally and I will love it and we'll live in a fairytale bubble.' Don't regret having her but boy has it altered my life!

I know this has kind of gone off topic so maybe a moderator could copy/move the last few posts to a new thread?

Originally Posted by Pimsticks

I kinda try and think that our experiences were worthwhile because we wouldn't be the people we are today, and we wouldn't have the ability to help others in similar situations had we never been through it.

Oh and I was one of the ones that became a single parent because... 'a baby will love me unconditionally and I will love it and we'll live in a fairytale bubble.' Don't regret having her but boy has it altered my life!

You're right Pims, all our experiences make us who we are today, good or bad, and if we can help one other person understand or feel better about a situation that's all good. I'm glad you understand what I'm talking about!

I didn't mean to sound like I'm wallowing in self pity because it's not like that, I try to be realistic about things that's all.

And I 'm glad you don't regret having your baby but you get my point don't you? x

This got me thinking about a lot of things. As a kid, I was really .

1. Holding hands, I was 7. For some reason at that age I had to have a girlfriend. There was some programming that told me that I always had to have one. Even though I didn't know what one truley was.

2. Got kissed, 5. We were moving and the nextdoor neighbor girl took me up to her room, she was in her panties and gave me a kiss. I didn't get a real kiss until I was 12.

3. Gave a kiss, 12.

4. Touching a naked woman, touched a girl at 7. Touched breast at 12. Funny thing is it was the same girl. She was also the one that I kissed. We moved, she moved, then her family vistited mine and we started fooling around. However, actually touching a woman's body until I was 18 as I was losing my virginity.

5. Maturbation, I was a teen ??? 13, 14?

6. Sex, 18 the first time I got with a girl I was hooked. Sex all the time. It did not take long before I was good at it. I do remember she was house sitting for a friend, I had got off work late and I went to visit her. We spent the whole night having sex until the wee hours of the morning. Sex in the master bedroom, bathroom, kitchen, living room. Those poor people's house. Unfortunately, I let sex define our relationship. She had her issues and all I wanted was sex, not my proudest moments of my life.

7. Never had sex with a virgin. It doesn't look like I ever will, not that I am complaining.

8. Never have done drugs. Boring that way.

Originally Posted by damd

This got me thinking about a lot of things. As a kid, I was really st*pid.

St*pid me, I for got that st*pid is a censored word. Now that is really st*pid.

First of all people, do understand that I have a goodie goodie background, have a Christian family background and still am a Christian. I was almost a nerd!! Hahaha!!!

1. First time I held hands with a boy > Have no idea!

2. First time I got kissed by a boy > round about 8. He was a couple of years older than me. It was a peckon the cheek!

3. First time I got KISSED by boy and visa versa > I was 15 years 9 months. I remember cos my friend (who had never been kissed at 15 too) laughed at me that I could never say 'sweet sixteen and never been kissed'. I felt soooo bad and felt my bf had robbed of getting to a virgin 16 in all aspects. My gf said I was 'DEFLOWERED'.

The actual kiss was nice, innocent and sweet. I remember the taste of toothpaste! LOL! I can't remember if we both brushed our teeth or it was just me!! I was in boarding school, under a hostel bridge. He was sweet cos after the initial kiss he said let's do it again. It was like I knew he was going to kiss me that night (Gosh people, you are making me remeber such a good day in my life!!!). I had a good nights sleep - actually looked forward to the next day!

4. First time I touched a man's naked body > I was 21!!!! YAA, YAA, YAA!!!????!!! My hubby was my second bf.
My first bf was from high school and is the one in #3 - this r/ship lasted 1.5 months - I never alowwed him to touch me anywhere but my butt (with clothes on) and mouth. Continued on #6

5. First time I masturbated >In teens somewhere! I used have romatic dreams (I liked reading romance novels) then I would wake up and find myself touching myself.

LITTLE CONFESSION: Have never used vibrator hahaha!!!! Wanted to try several months back, but freaked out!!!

6. First time I had real...honest to goodness SEX > I was a 23 year old virgin bride. My hubby was the first. Darn I enjoyed my honeymoon!! I actually couldn't understand why we had to go out and tour our honeymoon destination instead of having sex the whole day!!!! He was so gentle with me on my wedding night......it turns me on thinking about it.!!! IT WAS WONDERFUL!!!

7. First time I ever had sex with a virgin > Never. Won't get to do that in this lifetime.

Enjoyed doing this!! Thanks Fire (m)...

8. Have never messed with drugs.

1) First time I held hands with a guy: hmmm.... i think it was with my next door neighbors son, we were both 4 i think.

2) First time I got kissed by a boy: I was a freshman in high school so around 12 or 13 i was a very young freshman. it was coming back from a tournament ( major band geek here) and we were playing truth or dare lol oh the things horny band kids do.

3) First time I kissed a guy: I think it was the same as above..... lol things are a little foggy about what was done to whom.

4) First time I touched a man's naked body. I was 17 and i wanted to be rid of my virginity so badly that i had decided to meet a friend of a friend and it all kind of went down hill from there......

5) First time I masturbated. young very young is all i am going to say about that one.

6) First time I had real...honest to goodness SEX. hehe a very bad idea, some guy that i had met and we had hung out with for the longest time and things got physical, i just remember that i still hate my old car and that there was a lot of blood, pain and tears. thankfully i was so tight that it only lasted less than a minute.

7) Never had sex with a virgin

8) First time I had sex on "drugs" - never been on drugs never wanted to and I am never going to be, alcohol is different how ever but neither of us have been drunk around one another.