ok so, my fiance has problems reaching orgasm. I never really thought that i would have this problem with anyone but I can't make him orgasm orally, and about 40- 50% of the time he doesnt orgasm through sex at all, we dont use condoms because i am on the pill. it just makes me wonder a lot of the time if the problem is me? maybe I'm not doing something right, or maybe there's something wrong, or maybe i dont turn him on enough to reach orgasm. can someone give me an opinion?

yeah well it happens i guess maybe there is something going on in his head at the time who knows

There could be numerous reasons, I doubt it has to do with you. Are you vocal while having sex. Moaning and what not? Do you use lube? Does he masturbate?

Orally, you could be doing it wrong, ask him what feels good.

Is he circumcised?

he is circumcised, and as far as the me doing it wrong he says that it all feels really good, and i am very vocal, its something that he likes and i like to let my partner know when i am satisfied as well, so to answer i am a moaner. as for the lube and masturbation we do not use lube because i produce a good bit of natural lubricant, and as far as i know he does not masturbate, he doesnt even really like porn all that much.

I'm in my early 60's and on meds for depression and high blood pressure. I have not had an O with my partner for nearly a year. It's the meds. I know that. We work around it. Have trouble with ED too. That is caused by my brain. Working on that too.

My lady finds it frustrating that I don't O, and so do I, but we discuss it and find was to always make sure she has fun,, normally 10 or more O's during each contact session.

communicate, communicate, communicate. Difficult to do. Write note to each other. Do any trick you can thick of to start the communication going. Then things will be better.

maybe he isn't getting the stimulation he is needing from the way your blowing him.....or maybe the positions your having sex doesn't feel as good as others.....you might want to ask him what he likes and go from there......

Is he on: anti-depressants, anti-psycotics, cholesterol medication, heart medication, nerve blockers? All of these are well-known sex killers.