When does the condom go on?

Curioso · 07-30-2008, 04:58 PM

Ok ,so obviously it's before penetration. But during foreplay, when should it happen? As soon as he is erect?
Is it the guy's responsibilty to know when it should go on?

**damd** · 07-30-2008, 05:30 PM

At anytime you want to protect yourself from semenial fluid.

No, it is not just the man job to know when. It is as much as the women's responsibility as the man's. (actually it is kinda more her responsibility as if she gets pregnant) Point, don't let him be the sole person responsible to protect you from STDs or pregnancy.

**Fire(m)** · 07-30-2008, 06:39 PM

I say when his penis is out of his pants and you're going to touch it in any way, put the cover on it.

That way you're guaranteed to be safe (well as much of a guarantee as a condom can afford)...
Cheers.

ILuvHim · 07-30-2008, 08:22 PM

why not just throw a hefty bad over his head.......people please...are you all telling me you have done this??? when he takes it out of his pants you have asked your man to throw a condom on? get real....before intercourse you put it on.....and if your so worried that he gets a spermy on you, maybe your not ready for sex or just too scared of where he might have been.....please give young people advice that is real and not politically correct

**talk time** · 07-30-2008, 08:32 PM

I would put it on after he is errect and you have had a bit of forplay, set the mood a bit.

It should definately go on before it goes inside you in any way, BJ, vaginal, anal.

tt

**Fallen1** · 07-30-2008, 09:18 PM

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Originally Posted by ILuvHim

why not just throw a hefty bad over his head.......people please...are you all telling me you have done this??? when he takes it out of his pants you have asked your man to throw a condom on? get real....before intercourse you put it on.....and if your so worried that he gets a spermy on you, maybe your not ready for sex or just too scared of where he might have been.....please give young people advice that is real and not politically correct

Well if someone is worried about pregnancy they should take extra care as it is possible to get pregnant just from pre-cum .... and the penis doesn't necessarily have to be inside the vagina. Better to be safe than sorry I say!

Copied from coolnurse.com - Birth control myths

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If a guy ejaculates near his partner's vagina, a few sperm might mix with the moisture around the vagina and move into it. Some sperm are great swimmers!

So yes although the odds are minimal it is possible to get pregnant from just getting a spermy on you so therefore this IS real advice.

For someone that is young and just beginning I would consider this good advice ... they can adjust their practices as they get older and more experienced in sex/birth conrol/STDs.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 07-30-2008, 10:00 PM

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Fire(m) I say when his penis is out of his pants and you're going to touch it in any way, put the cover on it.

That way you're guaranteed to be safe (well as much of a guarantee as a condom can afford)...
Cheers.

That's good advice Fire(m) to a new beginner obviously as the threader is, it is always best to be safe until you fully understand any ramifications.

I note that she mentioned "foreplay" and as TalkTime said, therefore, she may prefer to go to that little region first and enjoy their time together ie) BJ. Perhaps when you finish there, as you both would be ready as, start to put it on yourself, he will take over and bite his ear, (lightly) which will get him going even more, and enjoy yourselves.

Fallen 1

Quote:

Well if someone is worried about pregnancy they should take extra care as it is possible to get pregnant just from pre-cum .... and the penis doesn't necessarily have to be inside the vagina. Better to be safe than sorry I say!

Copied from coolnurse.com - Birth control myths
Quote:

If a guy ejaculates near his partner's vagina, a few sperm might mix with the moisture around the vagina and move into it. Some sperm are great swimmers!

So you it is possible to get pregnant from just getting a spermy on you so therefore this IS real advice.

I totally agree Fallen 1, how many times have we in fact read on this Forum the panics, and sometimes, unfortunately the "little swimmers" managed to get in, even when he did not enter her at all, rather i remember one, came on her stomach but she placed her finger on both that region and then herself in cleaning up and, got, pregnant.

It's also good for beginners to have reference such as coolnurse.com, wish we had that help back when i was a teenager.

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I LuvHim
why not just throw a hefty bad over his head.......people please...are you all telling me you have done this??? when he takes it out of his pants you have asked your man to throw a condom on? get real...

I'm wondering if you actually like advising or just disagreeing? I'm feeling another debate coming on!!!!!

Here is one time that that is exactly what they are going to do. When they are in "horny mood" and purely want intercourse, bend her over the lounge and go for it, he will be taking it out of his pants and putting one on, IMMEDIATELY for that type of sexual transaction.. Don't you agree?

before intercourse you put it on.....and if your so worried that he gets a spermy on you, maybe your not ready for sex or just too scared of where he might have been.....

Pretty sure i just provided a good example of exactly that.

Before intercourse in addition "when he pulls it out of his pants"... I also think that's a wrong conclusion to make and certainly in-correct information to offer someone who is just starting out, wanting to know and therefore comes here for questions.

I point out again to Fallen1's comments. Google it yourself, ask your boyfriend physician "Spermy can swim faster than you can open your mouth to speak", she should be worried, very very worried.

The fact "threader" that you are also thinking smartly regarding using a Condom is great.. Take advice as you will but i am sure if you google you will find that all posters here stating "be safe", "sperm swims", "can happen without penetration" will appear on those sites, many, many of them.

please give young people advice that is real and not politically correct

...

I think in reality you need to understand that people have their OWN opinions and they post as such, including their advice. You are one person with ONE view, as they are with theirs. You are not right, they are not wrong. Simple

**anonymouswhitefemale** · 07-31-2008, 04:21 AM

Never before you give a blowjob that's for sure, if he has to put up with a condom he deserves to feel something like a bj first.

**shweedart** · 07-31-2008, 04:41 AM

we put it on just before we have sex

ILuvHim · 07-31-2008, 06:43 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Fallen1

Well if someone is worried about pregnancy they should take extra care as it is possible to get pregnant just from pre-cum .... and the penis doesn't necessarily have to be inside the vagina. Better to be safe than sorry I say!

Copied from coolnurse.com - Birth control myths
So yes although the odds are minimal it is possible to get pregnant from just getting a spermy on you so therefore this IS real advice.

For someone that is young and just beginning I would consider this good advice ... they can adjust their practices as they get older and more experienced in sex/birth conrol/STDs.

and coolnurse is what an expert? please.....like i said...its scared advice....lets be pratical....you put it on before intercourse......and if your worried about using it as birth control, why is a condom on before a BJ??? and for precum, i am sorry to inform you that is a very heavily debated issue. do some research....lets just be practical when giving advice on this board.....

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07-30-2008, 05:30 PM	#2
damd Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: May 2008 Location: USA Posts: 333 Blog Entries: 2	At anytime you want to protect yourself from semenial fluid. No, it is not just the man job to know when. It is as much as the women's responsibility as the man's. (actually it is kinda more her responsibility as if she gets pregnant) Point, don't let him be the sole person responsible to protect you from STDs or pregnancy.

07-30-2008, 06:39 PM	#3
Fire(m) Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 290	I say when his penis is out of his pants and you're going to touch it in any way, put the cover on it. That way you're guaranteed to be safe (well as much of a guarantee as a condom can afford)... Cheers.

07-30-2008, 08:22 PM	#4
ILuvHim Banned from WH Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: NewJersey Posts: 62	why not just throw a hefty bad over his head.......people please...are you all telling me you have done this??? when he takes it out of his pants you have asked your man to throw a condom on? get real....before intercourse you put it on.....and if your so worried that he gets a spermy on you, maybe your not ready for sex or just too scared of where he might have been.....please give young people advice that is real and not politically correct

07-30-2008, 08:32 PM	#5
talk time Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Australia Posts: 173	I would put it on after he is errect and you have had a bit of forplay, set the mood a bit. It should definately go on before it goes inside you in any way, BJ, vaginal, anal. tt

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anonymouswhitefemale May 2008 "Poster of the Month" Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 1,479 Blog Entries: 2	Never before you give a blowjob that's for sure, if he has to put up with a condom he deserves to feel something like a bj first.

07-31-2008, 04:41 AM	#9
shweedart Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Essex in England, near London Posts: 637	we put it on just before we have sex