Quote Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH View Post
Our sex drive deminshes once we are married?

I don't know if it's more of women "cheating" on the men, that being, that they really don't have a high sex drive at all, but obviously do just through the lustful stages.

What do you think?


Another question i guess, is do you like intimacy to be in totality.. Does it make you feel more of a woman, more respected? Such as:-

A touch on the shoulder passing you,
A comment of how nice you look,
A kiss for no reason,

Not just sexual intimacy.

CW
Totality is what works for me. The less emotional he is too me the less sex we are going to have, definately. I need to be 'pampered'. Made to feel sexy and wanted. If not, I get cold or become a sex maniac.

I agree with Goodnightirene. It is about taking care of each othere and all else just falls into place.
I have been married for 7 years now. I the beginning I thought doing everything for him was the way to go. It worked then cause sex was at least every other day. Over the years this was taken for granted and things fell apart in our relationship, to an extent that sex was down to 1x a week, sometimes none at all. It started with the erosion of the quote CW:

"A touch on the shoulder passing you,
A comment of how nice you look,
A kiss for no reason,.."

After that it went down to just sex intimacy, then it was just sex cause it had to be done.

We were able to work through it (taking care of each other, respect, etc.) and rejuvinate ourselves (it was a long and painful process).

I am a living testimony that it is possible to revive something that was dead to what you want a relationship to be.