Thread: I am disgusted with my body....but he's not!

Are any of us really happy with our bodies?? We stress about our curves and wobbly bits while men seem to love our different shapes and sizes.

I think most men will agree that confidence goes a long way. Most would rather have a not-so-skinny slightly wobbly woman who is happy and confident than a skinny one who constantly worries about their body. Confidence is sexy.

I'm sure you'll get lots of replies from the guys backing me up on this one

Stop worrying and just enjoy your time with your man. If you really want to lose weight, do it sensibly and gradually but in the meantime don't get too hung up about it!

My wife is a ~40 year old massage therapist. She does not have a perfect body. I LOVE her and her body. Here's a story for you...I hope you find it insightful.

When my wife was in college completing her degree in Massage Therapy, they had a class that did a lot of postural analyses. If you are not familiar with this concept, basically the students get into their underwear (or something very minimal, and fitting) and then the other students analyze their body (ie, her right shoulder is a little higher than her left...her left hip is a little lower than her right, etc.).
The idea is to analyze the posture to understand what to do as a Massage Therapist to correct the problem areas by lengthening or shortening muscles, etc. After the analysis, the student gets a massage, and then there is another analysis done to see what the results were.

Anyway...to make the long story real long, my wife, being approx 40 years old was in a class of "teenie-boppers" - - the majority of whom were 18-23 years old. My wife was very apprehensive about this, but I kept telling her...YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL. Don't worry about it. When it came time to "volunteer" to get up in front of the class in her underwear, my wife just bit the bullet (I was real proud when she told me later) and she did it. She said it was difficult, but she got through it.

The moment of clarity came to her when the last girl went up in front of the class in her underwear. She was 18, and by my wife's description, absolutely "perfect" in every way. Beautiful and with a perfect body. Well the perfect little girl, got up in front of the class, and burst into tears. She was so self-conscious and so concerned about her body and she felt so "imperfect" that it was enough for this beautiful girl to freak out. She was unable to continue with the analysis.

Ok, the point is:
99.9% of women consider themselves somehow less than beautiful. Just because you're one of those 99.9% DOES NOT MEAN that you are correct.

When your husband or your boyfriend looks at your body, it thrills his soul. Even if you're not perfect. You're HIS GIRL. You're the girl HE LOVES. You TURN HIM ON!
Go with it. Act like the Princess you ARE and it will turn him on even MORE!!!!!!!

Trust me when I say this, he GETS OFF ON YOUR BODY! I say this speaking the truth from the core of my ability. Other guys, chime in here...am I wrong? If I'm lyin' I'm dyin'.

Cheers to all the beautiful women!

One other point...
You've got to be happy with who you are and where you are in life.
If you're 20, be happy with what you've got.
If you're 40, or 60, or 80...it's all relative.

Your husband knows he's not perfect either. You love him don't you? He's proud of himself (beer belly, bald head, hairy back and all). But he probably carries himself like the stud he thinks he really is...and YOU...looking as good as you do...with all your "lady parts" question yourself...why!!!!!!!! You ladies are AWESOME!

Cheers (again). I promise I'll let this go now...hehe.