Thread: bloody men! bloody bloody!

My bfs sex drive has disappeared again (I posted a thread before)
but more than anything he's become lazy!
It's either blowjobs...or sex...no me time! Obviously its not a garuntee for me or any woman to come during sex (for him its pretty much expected)

He never goes down on me...If he starts touching me, after a minute or so he'll stop completely and just carries on watching tv or something!
I've never said no to him. His wish is my command so to speak?

I wouldn't mind so much if he was a bad lover...but he's actually very good (nooob!)

Foreplay's non existant too! after a while of heated kissing it'll either stop completely and he'll say 'maybe later' or we'll have sex that I don't really get much out of


ze intimacy...is kaput! zilch! Finite! Nil Poi!

I'm so frustrated I feel like I could go crossed eyed...and just keep going until my eyes have done a full 360

WOOOOOOSSSAAAAA! rant's over

Well I would not consider him a good lover then.

He sound lazy and inconsiderate of you.

I think you should dump him, sorry.

Maybe that will clue him in....

But surely it'd seem shallow of me to dump someone due to something like this?

Not really, if you're not satisfied now you never will be. Best to cut your losses before you get more involved. You're only 17 or something? You should be shagging like a rabbit.

No not shallow at all... sex is a huge part of a relationship...there is only so much a person can take...i think you should move on as well...a man who does not go down on a woman is not worth keeping around...but thats only my opinion...he sounds very selfish...move on so you do not make a bad decision and cheat or anything like that... meet someone who will make you happy in bed and everyplace else in your life...there out there i promise you that... good luck...

In the beginning phase of a relationship (say the first couple of years), things should be "cherry". They should be blissful and awesome and you should be happier than you've ever been before. If that's not the case for whatever reason, I wouldn't plan on the relationship lasting in the long run.

I wouldn't say to leave someone over a lower libido. BUT, you hint that there are some other issues, like him wanting to be "served" but never offering you any satisfaction. This doesn't sound like a purely sexual "lowered libido" situation, but one which involves a lot of selfishness and laziness. This "could" be the beginning phase of some level of mental abuse.

Also troubling is that you keep availing yourself to him. If he doesn't give you what you want, and yet you are continually making yourself available to him, then it appears that he is working you on some of your issues (maybe a little insecurity, maybe a lower self-esteem). You need to be able to stand up for yourself, and I'm not sure that you're doing that.

In any event, I don't want to encourage you to break up, but I do want to encourage you to take a close look at him, and at yourself and figure out why you're in this relationship. What are you getting out of it. If this is the 2nd time you're writing about this, chances are it's the 40th time you've been experiencing it. Is this relationship worth the pain it's causing you?

Hope things work out (either way). If you really want my gut instinct, I say "thumbs down".

Sorry.