Thread: Unsure beginner

I suggest masturbation. If you're unsure whether you've had an orgasm or not, it means you haven't. You'd know for fact if you have. Take some time by yourself in bed or in a hot bath. Explore your body and find out what you like for yourself. Having knowledge of yourself will enhance the experience greatly, and also gives you the ability to tell your partner what to do to make you quiver.

Also remember sex can be very emotional, especially on your first time. You may feel ready for it, you may feel like it's not a big deal, but afterwards it can throw your head in a loop. Imagine how you would feel if you had sex with him and never heard from him again. Some women would be ok with that, some it could cause serious self esteem issues for. I wish you the best of luck and above all, love yourself and have a blast!

Well its gonna hurt, Sorry but save it for someone you love. Who cares if he can't wait for you, then he doesn't love you so forget him. Wait till your ready and you love him.

Ok so the evening went really well! We ate, watched a film and kissed into the night. May I add that he is a very good kisser. I've seen him since and we've discussed the whole sex issue as he knows I'm a beginner and has said that he would break me in gently.

What I would like some advice on is how to react when it comes to it? Ok that came out bad...I hope you know what you mean. I don't want to insult him without realising it.

I've spoken to my friend about him and straight away she told me to go to a family planning clinic whatever happened. This makes sense but I'm such a complicated medical case that I don't know who to go to. I don't want to go to my GP surgery. Another complication is that I'm allergic to latex and rubber...what happens then? I'm allergic to most things.

I feel wonderful when I'm around him and never knew it was possible to feel this way. He wasn't even put off by my medical issues and has accepted me for who I am.

Any advice please.

He's lovely!

What I would like to know now, is err......how long till the spotting stops?

I guess that means you had sex with him? I don't quite remember if I had bleeding my first time. I know I had a little bit of pain, but that was it. I'd say just give it a few days. Don't try to do it again until there's no more spotting and you're not tender or anything. Even then it might sting a bit but should get better rapidly.

Hope everything went well and you enjoyed it!