**konvix**

ok. im 18 & my bf eric . CLAIMS to have had sex before .. and i Dont think he has .. half the time he doesnt know what hes doing (as far as kissing, and fingering ) and makes it seem like im a little girl bcuz im a virgin .. i know hes a virgin... i just do .. help me ! is there any way i can tell if he is ! lol

Richard S

There really is no way to tell. It took me a few partners to go from just being someone who's had sex to someone who really knew how to treat a woman in bed and felt confident about it.

If you don't think you can trust him, that's something to think about.

SinisterUrge

Great lovers are made not born. There are a variety of instructional DVDs and I suggest your BF (and you) rent or buy a few of them to help you as you start your adult sex lives. Well, kissing you should be able to work-out between the two of you.

I'm partial to OSK productions 'educational sex series' and of course Nina Hartley has umpteen million DVDs as well as less-known companies (alexander institute, vivid, sinclair intimacy, wicked, evil angel, etc etc etc).

Fire(m)

Well, he might have had sex, but that doesn't mean he knows what he's doing.

Also, (and I can actually tell you from experience as I'm 47 years old and have been with at least 20 women...but who's counting), every woman is different. Because you do things that turn one woman on, does not have ANYTHING to do with the fact that you could do something for another woman. I mean, I know that ALL women have nipples and clitoris'es (hehe) but frankly in my experience each woman has things that move HER and those things generally are not equivalent from woman to woman.

This is one of the beauties of women. The fact that they are complex and different and each very beautiful in their own light just heightens the excitemeent level for a knowledgeable and capable man.

Here's the thing. I don't know what turns you on. BUT, I do know how to figure out what turns you on and because that's the kind of guy I am, I'll guarantee you that I'll make it my goal to find out how you "tick" and find a way to satisfy or exceed your expectations of me.

If your boyfriend thinks like this, he's gonna bat a home run. If he doesn't, he's going to strike out. YOU can help him though, by explaining this to him and directing him in what makes you feel good. He is not clairvoyant. He is no mind reader. You have to TELL him what makes you feel good. THEN, you should be able to expect some repeatability in his actions. He should repeatably be able to "zing" you. If after you've helped him walk down the road of your multiple orgasms, he hasn't picked up on it, then my attitude is...get another guy.

One additional note: He should be somewhat intuitive. When I said that you should tell him what makes you feel good, I meant it, but he should also be watching very closely to how your body is reacting to his actions.

You know, if you were to masturbate yourself to orgasm in front of him, he WILL begin to see you react to your touch, or the vibrators action etc...

The point is, that if he is REALLY doing his job, it should be a combined effort.
1) You communicating to him what you want/need... and...
2) Him being intuitive and watching and listening to how your body reacts to his inputs.

This is in brief what makes a man a good lover. Your B/F has probably got a way to go to get there...but you can help him.

Cheers.