i was born with a disability which amongst other things includes the unfortunate problem of having a weak bladder which usually results in incontinence during sex. i just wonder how other people deal with this sort of thing. i absolutely adore sex but this problem just makes me anxious about it and about how the guy is going to react. it makes me anxious to the point of not being able to enjoy it to its full potential because i'm too concerned about something happening..

in the past with boyfriends i've gotten to the point of penetration with him and then quickly gone to the toilet before going further but that's frustrating and although they have said it doesn't worry them, i can't understand how it wouldn't be a complete mood killer for them.

there isn't a whole lot i can do about it from a physical point of view but i guess i just need to know i'm not the only one with the same problem in this world. i'm between partners now and once again i just find myself nervous about having to explain the situation to someone new and hoping that they'll be accepting of it..

how do you handle it? how does your partner feel about it?

any support, advice or anything else would be more than welcome and absolutely appreciated!

You're just human. Don't worry a bit about this problem. Think of it like this. A guy is getting ready to make love to you. Do you really think it's going to bother him that you have to go to the bathroom? Think about what HE's getting ready to GET!

It won't bother him. Just explain that since he's so BIG you want to make sure your bladder is emptied before y'all get busy.

I do understand that you view this as a real problem. I'm not trying to minimize it by being coy. I'm serious in that this should not be a problem to any man worth having. If this IS a problem to a man, it's a great indicator that you need a different man.

Seriously, don't let this bother you at all! It would be no big deal to me...not even a blip on the radar screen.

Cheers.