Thread: Help!! Boyfriend Lost His Sex Drive!!

I agree with davey and I do understand where you are coming from with all of this sometimes my fiance has problems getting aroused because of stress and everything, try some place exciting and different to get him in the mood, back of a car at a parking lot or something public maybe? also you guys should see if you can make a weekend get away, just get away from family and where you are living and just be spontaneous, who knows maybe it will jump start your sex life again..... and why is it that you feel like you need sex to be intimate sometimes sex is not always a way of intimacy, sharing a romantic dinner and cuddling on the sofa watching a favorite movie that you two have or even watching the movie that you guys went to go and see when you first started going out that can be intimate.... there are so many levels of intimacy that are beyond physical. good luck
cheers

Originally Posted by PUMPKIN4

I am 24 years old, so is my boyfriend. We've been together for about 8 years.
We've always had a fairly good sex life, but the last 6 months, he's just not interested. He talked to me about it. He said between his 12-14 hour work day, 6 days a week, bills, family problems, etc, he's just not interested.
I'm sure it's stress. He said it's not me and not my fault. I don't know what I can do, if anything. And, it's not just about me. We need sex to have that intimacy connection, and it's gone. I'm happy he at least talked with me about it. I can't imagine it was easy for him. So, has anyone out there been through this before? Did it resolve on it's own? Any input is appreciated.
Thanks.

It does sound like he is under a lot of stress and thats probably what the problem is. You may need to be the sexual initiator for a while as he sorts his work life out. You might want to also consider having him see a doctor to rule out medical reasons for lack of sex drive because at his age this is still very unusual.

Ask to have his Thyroid checked. Also have a hormone panel done to see if his Testosterone levels are normal for his age. He might have some form of hypogonadism.

Good luck!

I really think a visit to the doctor is in order. I went through ?? year? Years? Of wondering if I was suddenly too fat, not sexy enough or if my DH was gay or seeing someone on the side or??? Then we found out that his Testosterone levels were too low. When his doctor put him on this drug called Androgel wow! It was like having the guy I married show up at the door suddenly and the Asexual permi-crabby walking anxiety attack evaporated (And good bye!) I have never been so happy as when he started "bothering" me too much for sex again. Its a relief to feel wanted and like I still have it even if I'm not 20 years old. Or 30... Or err.... well...