Hi everyone,

Ive been with my boyfriend for 1 year now. Im a virgin and i think im ready. Mostly the reason for me not having sex with him was because of my body issue. Well i said what the ill do it in the dark where he cannot see anything even though he finds me beautiful the way i am i just cant get passed my body when he touches me im dusgusted with it so why would he find me beautiful?

Enough about that okay so im ready but im also scared that its going to hurt. Well ive givin him head and stuff and his pretty big and im scared if we do it its really going to hurt. Any adivse what i can do to make the situation less awkward and for me not to think about my body issues all the time. I think ive made him nervous as well as it being the first time for me and his a sexual person?

Any adivse would be welcomed.
Thanks

As I've found out through personal experience, If you don't point out your imperfections he wont even notice them! Ive got some big stretch marks on the insides of my thighs and the back of my knees but he never understood why I didn't like my legs...I showed him my stretch marks and his reaction was 'what have they always been there?'

The less of a big deal you make, the less of a big deal it'll be I promise you. If it's his first time too I'm sure he'll be more focused on not blowing his load too quickly or the fact he's about to have sex for the first time. Every naked woman is beautiful! FACT. but it takes confidence to make yourself feel beautiful

I know where your coming from because I was in the same boat body wise then one day I just bit my lip, took my clothes of and pretty much said well...this is me! Ever since then I'm much more comfortable naked even when I'm on my own. I was that bad that I showered in the dark and everything

Take it slowly, if it hurts then stop, make sure he fingers you a lot so your downstairs is prepared for a bit of stretching

Hi,

This is from a guy. Tell him your concerns. It may be difficult, but tell him. And if he is a normal guy, telling him that since he is so "big"you are afraid it will hurt will make him feel really proud of his equipment. We men a such suckers!

But tell him your concerns. If possible, hold hands while you do it. somehow that makes things easier.

Do not owrry about your body. I agree with advice given above. I have seen a reasonable number of naked female bodies from very close up . All sizes and shapes. Each had its own special features. We guys are not looking for imperfections, we just view the overall package. And one of the most important parts of that package is how you feel about yourself. Be relaxed, be what you are - you.

If he does not "like" to see you naked becuase you are too "something" then he is probably a lost cause. Don't worry.

Try to relax. Tell him you are having trouble relaxing. communicate. Tell him how you feel. Tell him if you are embarassed for him to see you naked, or whatever. Work with him to slowly, step by step, overcome this issues.

communicate, communicate, communicate. Tell him how you feel, even if you know in your head that the way you feel is not really logical. Tell him that - "I know this is not logical but I feel xxxxxxx." He cannot read your mind, and you cannot read his.

Godd luck.

thank you guys!!!! this helps

may i ask why you've waited? i just recently lost my virginity to my then boyfriend now husband....i waited because i wanted it to be at the right time with the right person... they are tons of reasons to wait... not ready, want to save yourself for you husband...etc so it think it would be a bit easier to give you advice if i knew why you waited.

sorry i read your post last night and waited til this morning to reply and i didnt reread it.... some things you need to discusss with your boyfriend is birth control, what if you get pregnant and if the sex will in anyway affect your relationship in a negative way...

some things you need to think about are... will you be okay letting him see every inch of you naked body... are you completely comfortable with him... if you get pregnant are you okay with him being the father... how you will feel once you do it...

sex is a big step in a relationship, even more so if one is a virgin... and for me it just wasnt something i was comfortable with... but my husband made me so comfortable and he answered all the questions i asked him...

since it will be your first time you will want to take it slow and be completely relaxed, it doesnt really hurt, its just a little uncomfortable at first, but it feels so good you wont even notice it and the first time you probably dont want to try a bunch of crazy postions lol...lots of foreplay will make it easier... trust me, even if its just kissing and holding each other... you may want to get lube also

i hope this helps and good luck