I was just wondering if anyone has done this and if so did your SO know. I have heard of people doing this and i was just curious. Some co workers and I were talking about this. How do you do it? Is it just talking dirty about the "acts" or what?

Well, cybering is whatever you'd want it to be. There aren't any rules. I did it with my past gf a couple of times, as well as with a few strangers. One of whom I wound up meeting. The moral of the story? Get a webcam, it's way better. Haha. Best to watch sexiness rather than waiting for some words to crop up on your screen.

I didnt ever actually cyber when I was in a relationship, but I'd be close to thinking that it wasn't cheating or whatever. Though I doubt most women would see it that way.

This exact topic came up yesterday on another site I read. I think the general consensus there was that it IS cheating, but every couple needs to set their own relationship rules and boundaries. What's unacceptable for some couples would be totally fine for others.

I would consider it cheating because it's interaction of a sexual nature with someone else and that's not allowed in my relationship. Porn is fine, but live interaction is not.

Is modelling for a life drawing class cheating? When they say, no, rest your head on your hand like that and look like you're thinking about something. That's interactive nudity.

No modeling is not.

But there is a difference between just sitting nude as a model and interacting with someone having what you would call cyber sex.

If you're single that's one thing, if you're in a committed relationship it's another. My s/o better not be interacting with another person in that way or it's out the door for him.

As the above poster said, porn is one thing but when you are actually interacting with the person it's another.

It's not interaction of a sexual nature. There's really no comparison.

Ok, I was talking carp in the above post,

but I just really don't see it any differently than porn. Maybe slightly differently, but not the difference between "oh, watching porn again dear?" and "get out of our house, I'm having half of your car too".

When you are interacting/discussing with another person what you would like to do to and with that person it goes beyond being faithful to your partner in my books.

Anon, if you were in a committed relationship and giving your all to someone and you found that she was carrying on that way with another person I believe you'd be a slight bit upset by it wouldn't you?