considered a real women??

roro1978 · 08-20-2008, 11:30 AM

I was wondering I am a 36 yr old female
that is still a virgin(never had penetration or orgasm)
I am currently single and have been for a while
of course I have family members and friends I have not seen in a
bit that think I am a lesbian, I am totally all for men, just have not found that
right guy yet! i am ok with me not being with someone but just being thought of
like that, and having people I am not a women because I have not had sex yet
open for advice on how to respond to people when they approach me

**anonymouswhitefemale** · 08-20-2008, 11:55 AM

Of course you're a real woman, sex has no bearing on who you are. Well, it might a bit, but not in such definate terms.

As for how to be open? I don't know, don't be mean to people, smile, pretend to be interested in what people have to say, laugh at their jokes even if they're not funny...

Erm, really, it depends completely on who you are talking to.

**miffed23** · 08-22-2008, 01:06 AM

Yikes, these people are your friends and family? Bleh, who cares if you havent had sex yet? Tell them the reason you told us - you havent found the right man yet. Thats a perfectly good reason and there is no need to justify it.

Unfortunately, in contrast the fairy tales - the 'right man' just doesnt fall onto your lap or have a neon sign saying 'im your man'

.... youve got to get out there and look.... do you have any hobbies? Expand your social networks, join a group / club / class. Try to be confident, in a classy way, not an arrogant way.

Best of luck.

lilduck · 03-26-2009, 08:31 PM

heck with em, they shouldn't make you feel bad or pressure you to get in a relationship. that will come when you aren't looking for it. just tell em that you just haven't found anyone who's worth it, that you're not interested unless you think you've hit gold. i hope that helps

all the best

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 03-26-2009, 08:36 PM

Old thread, 2008, OP has not returned, have a look on the left hand side, before posting ..

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08-20-2008, 11:30 AM	#1
roro1978 Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 9	considered a real women?? I was wondering I am a 36 yr old female that is still a virgin(never had penetration or orgasm) I am currently single and have been for a while of course I have family members and friends I have not seen in a bit that think I am a lesbian, I am totally all for men, just have not found that right guy yet! i am ok with me not being with someone but just being thought of like that, and having people I am not a women because I have not had sex yet open for advice on how to respond to people when they approach me

08-22-2008, 01:06 AM	#3
miffed23 December 2008 "Poster of the Month" Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 615 Blog Entries: 4	Yikes, these people are your friends and family? Bleh, who cares if you havent had sex yet? Tell them the reason you told us - you havent found the right man yet. Thats a perfectly good reason and there is no need to justify it. Unfortunately, in contrast the fairy tales - the 'right man' just doesnt fall onto your lap or have a neon sign saying 'im your man' .... youve got to get out there and look.... do you have any hobbies? Expand your social networks, join a group / club / class. Try to be confident, in a classy way, not an arrogant way. Best of luck. __________________ "The air of heaven is that which blows between a horses ears"

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08-20-2008, 11:55 AM	#2
anonymouswhitefemale May 2008 "Poster of the Month" Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 1,479 Blog Entries: 2	Of course you're a real woman, sex has no bearing on who you are. Well, it might a bit, but not in such definate terms. As for how to be open? I don't know, don't be mean to people, smile, pretend to be interested in what people have to say, laugh at their jokes even if they're not funny... Erm, really, it depends completely on who you are talking to.

03-26-2009, 08:31 PM	#4
lilduck Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 12	heck with em, they shouldn't make you feel bad or pressure you to get in a relationship. that will come when you aren't looking for it. just tell em that you just haven't found anyone who's worth it, that you're not interested unless you think you've hit gold. i hope that helps all the best