Wondering...

**DarkFrost** · 08-20-2008 06:52 PM

Hi everyone, my names Dustin, but call me Dark

. Anyways, I'm 16, and go to a nice high school. No jocks, No nerds, no social cliques. Anyways, I've been seeing a girl for about 2 months now, and I'm IN LOVE. I really want to have sex with her, because we're both virgins, and the fact that I love her, and I want to have the experience. But I'm also really scared that it'll ruin our relationship. Any advice is welcome!

[I'm going to use a condom :P]

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 08-20-2008 07:22 PM

Originally Posted by DarkFrost

Hi everyone, my names Dustin, but call me Dark

. Anyways, I'm 16, and go to a nice high school. No jocks, No nerds, no social cliques. Anyways, I've been seeing a girl for about 2 months now, and I'm IN LOVE. I really want to have sex with her, because we're both virgins, and the fact that I love her, and I want to have the experience. But I'm also really scared that it'll ruin our relationship. Any advice is welcome!

[I'm going to use a condom :P]

Love the bit in brackets Dark

And how does she feel about it? Is she also ready to do this?

I also don't think that you need to rush.... 2 months isn't long and you may grow apart in a few months time... So, you have to consider here there as well, for the next boyfriend in her life.

As you are scared it might ruin your relationship, let me ask you what makes you think that? On performance side of things, or just that if you both do this, then maybe things will change.

As, I said how does she feel about it?

Welcome to the Forum as well.

CW

**DarkFrost** · 08-20-2008 07:26 PM

Thanks xD Yeah, going to use a condom for sure.

... Anyways, Dunno how she feels about it, never asked her, to be honest, a tad too scared to ask -.-.
I was scared it might ruin our relationship because y'know.... Dunno how to put it, heres all I got - I'm scared it'll ruin our relationship because maybe she thinks [JUST MAYBE] I'm just dating her for the sex...

**Davey** · 08-20-2008 07:39 PM

If your too scared to ask you're not ready my man. Love is a serious deep thing, and it's hard to know what that is. After 2 months it's probably more deep infatuation than anything. No need to rush anything man. Chances are after u find out how good sex is you'll want to see what it's like with others.

**DarkFrost** · 08-20-2008 07:42 PM

Actually, I really love her, and I really agree with you, Davey. It's just that I'd rather not cheat on her or something, I'd rather have sex with her, get it over with, experience it, and then go on loving her.
[And maybe some more later

]

**DarkFrost** · 08-20-2008 07:43 PM

[And maybe some more sex later

]****** Darn mistypes.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 08-20-2008 08:07 PM

Well she may not be ready at all... She's only 16...

It's only been two months, sounds like you got the hots for her and your ready and don't want to dis her for someone who already has, and lose her.

I'm sure you kiss her heeps... You'll know if she wants to it will fall into place.

Don't push her. It's only been two months and she probably loves the fact that she feels safe with you that your not asking.

I don't think that you should ask... Rather go with the flow of the relationship kind of plenty of time for that anyway, in fact all your life.

If you love her, then as i said, it will fall into place when the time is right.

Ask her and you may lose her trust and she may thing exactly what you are thinking, which is not why she is with you.

Time is an essense young man.

Na I'm not an old biddy either. Nor your Mother.

haha.

CW