10 years ago, I was 26 years old ,met a man in my city and we fell in love quickly , starting to have sex two months later. But this man’s penis was very crooked upward, every time we had sex,I felt very uncomfortable. Before this man, I had good sex with a man who was my first man in life. So I knew the feeling of love when making love. I had no good feeling at all making love with the second man. I made a big mistake then, I kept our relationship for six months, the only reason was he loved me, I had endured a lot uncomfortable sensation in my body when we made love. At that time, I did not know how important the sex life was in my future marriage and did not know making love with him would cause a big problem in my future sex life either. Eventrually,we ended up breaking up after I realized he was not the right man for me. But I have had a problem making love since then. I made love with a few men afterwards, they all felt uncomfortable making love with me in bed and our relastionships did not last long. I think I have a problem in my . I went to a few doctors here in China, they said my vagina was normal,no problem. But I know that I do have a problem which is rare. Because I know now I couldn’t sarisfy a man’s sexual needs. I will turn 37 years old by November this year, I am still single,I am eager to set up home and have kids.I deeply know that I won't lead a happy life whitout a solution of my vagina problem. I feel very painful mentally, I even don’t dare to make love with any man now,because I am afraid of he will leave me after we have intimacy, that way I would get a lot of hurt. So,dear friends, would you please give me any medical suggestions on my issue? Thanks a lot.

Is it possible that because he was an "upward" man that you sub-consiously felt it was you that was abnormal?

I am saying this as I had a long term boyrfriend like that and it did not "hit the spot" so to speak...

But as I am older 45, I realise that it's position, position, position, sound like a Real Estate Agent.

In other words, it is about finding "the spot " that is best for you and that you work with the best.

I think that you are referring to him and that it is you personally.

If he had tried different positions ( I was young) back then I would have realised it wasn't me, but how our body responds.

I personally think you need to find you and how it works for you and stop beating yourself up.

CW

i thought it was location location location

Funny about that... Position and Location can be percieved to be the exact same thing, hense utilising the term Real Estate.

CW