please help!!! sex issues

[mummyof2]

Hi all..im tash and im new to this and a bit embarrassed that i have to come on here for help hehe. Where do i start.. well my fiance recently left me after 5 years,we always had sex pretty much every night of the week for the 5 years we were together but the thing is i never really enjoyed it i only reached orgasm probly once every couple of months if i was lucky and those times we never done anything different to every other time. Now im not with him any more and im with another guy who is i must say very very good in bed lol, but i still cant manage to orgasm!!i do like sex once its started but i just cant initiate it either, i never have been able to, i just dont feel comfortable starting it i dont know y,the guy that im with at the moment i have been with for only 2 or so months and i just cant touch him...i feel so so uncomfortable i dont know wat is goin on..and i dont know how to make him feel wanted so to speak. does anyone have any tips for me??? sorry for long post!!

[mummyof2]

Anyone ????????? Lol

[mummyof2]

Anyone ????????? Lol

[shweedart]

Rather than initiate it with touching why not some passionate kissing and neck kissing? bit of ear lobe nibbling? Then chances are he'll start the touching

[Fire(m)]

How about this...easy for you.

1) All you have to do is give him a "look". You know the look, that look that says "do me NOW!"
2) Just tell him that you're feeling a little sleepy and you want to go take a "nap". Then get up and start walking away, taking clothing items off as you go. He'll chase you down in 1/2 second...trust me.

Your problem is a good problem to have because there are a lot of quick easy fixes to it.

Cheers.

[mummyof2]

ok thanks guys..but i dont even think id be comfortable doing that even.i dont know why i dont have any confidence in myself to do anything..wen i was with my ex he was a bit critising(not like really bad)but he did put me down a little bit while we were having sex and i think thats y i dont want to do anything..im happy just laying there sometimes lol. and half the time i know im not going to orgasm so i dont try to make the effort and i dont know how to get past that, i have a vib which gets me every time i use it, but dont want to use it with my new guy cause my ex used to get offended wen i used it cause it could get me there and he couldnt, and i dont want that to happen again, i know every male is different but that is just how i feel.....

[rcoreyus]

Trust your new guy - if he doesn't live up to it, dump him. Many men really enjoy giving women pleasure, maybe he is one of them, and would love to know what you would like. If you like your vib, maybe he will find that exciting too. For some men nothing is as exciting as a woman having an orgasm. So - tell him exactly what you would like - and listen to what he wants.

[Richard S]

Have you ever given him oral? Most men will respond positively to a woman who will do that spontaneously, without them even having to ask. The idea is to be generous with him, build up his male ego, and hopefully he will return the favor by being a good lover in return. You should feel comfortable and confident playing with his c*ck, being able to make him orgasm any time you want.

That's the art of being female, knowing how to blow up a guy's ego, then letting the air out a bit when he starts acting too full of himself...

Good luck.

[mummyof2]

No i havnt done that yet with him, i cant bring myself to do it i feel very uncomfortable..it just seems very weird being with someone different then my ex...i would like to do it but i just cant bring myself to do it. Oh yeh he does everything that i like he doesnt hold back at all and i do enjoy it but...still have trouble enjoying it right to the end lol

[Richard S]

We're getting into some delicate territory here. You need something or someone to push you to the next level. You know you have a sexual potential that needs to be unlocked but you don't know where to find the key.

Have you ever seen the movie "Secretary" ?

I'm not saying you will find an answer there. I'm just saying the movie is about one woman and how she finds her answer.