I need a girls opinion on my girlfriends sexual past

[kcspres]

I have a great site that might help you Dave, there are over 50 articles relating to dealing with spouses sexual past. If interested PM me.

[collegegirl2009]

I think it is very commendable that you have saved yourself for marriage. It's not something that as many people do anymore and is very respectable. I can say though, on behalf of your girlfriend you need to cut her some slack. I realize that it is hard when you've had less or no partners & your significant other has had more. If you truly love her as you say you so then you'll be able to let this go & love her for her no matter what. You can't punish someone for something they did in the past because she can't take it back. No point on dwelling on that. As far as her comparing you to past men well don't worry about that. If she is with you then she wants to be with you and not the men she was with before. Think of it that she might be able to teach you something. I know that may not be what you always dreamed of but you can't have everything you want. Point being... you either want her or you don't. Which is more important? Your insecurities or being with her. You need to either accept her or let her go. It's unfair to stay with her if you're always secretly wishing she was different. I can say as a woman I wouldn't want you with me if you felt that way. My ex boyfriend treated me differently for similar reasons and it was something that still hurts to this day and it's been about 5 yrs since we were together. Don't be unfair if you love her.

[Hopeless Dork]

Dave, she was honest with you.. move on to the next "virgin" and she may not even be one. Guys really have no way of knowing whether or not they are having sex with a virgin anyway, so hopefully it has nothing to do with the technical virginity aspect, as some girls lose their hymen do to injury etc.

She is worth more than the number of men she had a brief and unmemorable encounter with. Would you rather be with a girl that was a virgin yet had several other boyfriends that she loved so very much and kept pictures of and remembered everything about ever kiss so well. No matter what you might think about a persons past, a lot of people wish that they were the first human their significant other put eyes on.

Sadly its life. Be reassured by the fact that she loves YOU wants YOU, not those other guys or she'd still be with one of them. Would you want future girls that are in love with you to dismiss you in the future because you did something in your past that you likely regret.

Sharing the same values are important, as long as she shares them with you now, I think the mature way to handle it would be to put it in the past if you love her. You are never going to meet someone that perfect on paper, never. We're all humans and have flaws and regret.