Suck at Sucking

[ILoveChopsticks]

Plain and simple I just can not suck . I don't know what it is but I am really bad at giving head. I don't mind doing it and I want to please my partner but I'm so bad at it he can't enjoy it. I was never insecure before and then I my boyfriend finally told me that I'm doing it all wrong and I just haven't been able to correct it. I think its something about actually sucking his . I just can't seam to get my lips wrapped around right to make it airtight when I'm sucking. Now all I want to do is satisfy him but its hard to practice on him because he doesn't enjoy it. I need help and alot of it. Any tips from any of you ladies would be great and guys too would be alot of help. Also not just how to give head but maybe some ideas on how to practice would be great too. I've been with my boyfriend for 3.5 years and we love each other so much but honestly if I can't please him in the bedroom our relationship will be over sooner or later.

[Missy Belle]

all men are different... i once dated a guy who loved the base of his penis bitten, really hard til u almost draw blood...believe me hes a one of a kind have never found anyone else you loves that shiz...

my hubby likes it done all sorts not jus one sucking motion... loves his balls being licked, knob flicked then drive my lips down his shaft til i deep throat him using my throat to swallow his tool...then a bit of sucking..teeth grinding up the shaft bit of deep throating...bit of hand to mouth action with some more knob sucking and licking...

you get my drift babes its not jus about the sucking...

dont worry too much about it we dont have to be mega porn stars in the bedroom cos thats jus fake...jus enjoy it to no end and explore the journey together.

[Rosslyn]

Honestly, if your boyfriend isn't the least bit interested in letting you practice on him and helping you to get better, it doesn't sound like he cares that much. If it's something he wants and if it's something you enjoy, he should be willing to let you practice. You could try using your tongue more, especially around the head. You don't have to make it airtight to make it good. Obviously you don't want to have a ton of air in your mouth (not even sure that's possible) but you're not expected to be a vacuum. If that's what he wants, hand him some lube and the extension for the vacuum.

[StateofMind]

The best (male) advice I could give is to treat it like it's something you really want to suck. Pretend it's the best popsicle ever made and it's the last thing you'll ever eat. Don't forget the balls either, use your tongue on them while you use your hand on "him." Or massage them with a free hand while in the act. Switch it up, enjoy yourself and he'll enjoy yourself too.

No biting...

[Married15]

The best (male) advice I could give is to treat it like it's something you really want to suck. Pretend it's the best popsicle ever made and it's the last thing you'll ever eat. Don't forget the balls either, use your tongue on them while you use your hand on "him." Or massage them with a free hand while in the act. Switch it up, enjoy yourself and he'll enjoy yourself too.

No biting...

This...and make sure you have eye contact with the "come here baby" eyes!!!...

you don't always have to be sucking to make it a good knobber...You can be licking it like an ice cream cone...You know how you, lick the sides and suck off the top of the ice cream ...Play with it, with your entire mouth...your tongue your cheeks...When you lick up the shaft let it tap(slap) you in the face..little things like that will make the knobber a GOOD knobber!!!

[In-Need]

There are tons of info on this subject and good advice too, do a search for threads containing Giving B/J or Giving head.

1 thing that bothers me tho about your statement is that he'd leave you if you don't do this right, if all it's about for him then I'm not so sure you'd want him, would you, sorry, felt I should be blunt here.

Also any girl that would want to practice on me I'd say bring it on, he needs an attitude adjustment! It's just hard for me to understand that.

[JustAman]

I depends on how comfortable you are with your S/O, but my wife cannot take all of me in her mouth, but she pays great attention to other parts of me while she's licking and sucking. She uses one hand to rub my shaft while she's sucking and licking and will usually slide a finger in "around the corner" while she's rubbing my "boys". Gets me off quick and intense every time!

[ILoveChopsticks]

Thanks for all the great feedback. I'm already starting to get better. I just need to keep practicing. I guess we probably wouldn't end up breaking up over something like this but I think eventually we might have an open relationship to spice things up. Any input about open relationships??

[rcoreyus]

Any input about open relationships??

A real mine-field. It can work, but I've seen one marriage destroyed, and another where one of the partners is miserable due to this. (and these are the only 2 couples I know who do this).

I imagine it could work for some people - but not most.

[Magnetism]

All men are different, but I do a combination of licking (from the balls to the penis), to hitting the penis on my tongue, twirling my tongue around the head, and doing the standard bobbing (going up and down on a guy's penis). A good technique is to alternate between licking and bobbing.