Pleaseeeee helpppp!

[littlejammer]

im goin to the gyno for the first time. i just had sex, im only 14. my mom wants me to get a pap smear, birth control, and my shots. I DO NOT WANT A PAP SMEAR. shes stayin in the waiting room so do you think she will find out if i tell the doctor no or what? they cant make get on can they? i just wont birth control and my shots. i know i aint got no deasice cause i made my bf get tested before we did anything and he didnt have anything.

[littlejammer]

i ment that cant make me can they?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

What do you think that a pap smear is?

Don't you want to ensure that you don't ever get Cervical Cancer? This is the main reason why a pap smear is conducted.

It is only awkward, un-comfortable it doesn't hurt and every woman should have them.

I know you are young and there may be a fear there, being touched by a Doctor in your lady parts.

Why don't you instead talk to the Doctor when you are there and ask him/her, is it necessary to have a pap smear this young in life? What is it for apart from checking for cervical cancer? When should they be done.. Usually it's every couple of years and I have to fess, that I can't recall my first one but I know I wasn't that young.

Talk to the Doctor that's what they are there for.

CW

[littlejammer]

i see no point if i know i dont have anything. im not getting one and they cant make me! thats bein that he has been tested so i know i dont have anything.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

littlejammer... dear me...

You are 14 your Mother is probably just worried about you.. You have had sex and the boy says he is ok...

It's normal to be frightened because you've never had it done before..

It's nothing honest.

CW

[impatientlywaiting]

First off let me tell you I've been in your shoes...I'm barely 20. I lost my virginity at 15 almost 16. Why are you so against a pap test? Did you know that HPV can be contracted at birth? And that cancer isn't found in a test for STD's? Honestly for me and many other girls i know a pap wasn't nearly as uncomfortable as losing your virginity. But I also read in another of your posts someone told you your rectum was involved in a pap...I've never had a doc go near there with anything but a swab and that was during pregnancy. My Obgyn wouldn't perscribe birth control without giving a pap, so honestly don't count on it.
Yeah they are uncomfortable, but I was told at 16 I had HPV(the cancer kind, not warts)I really think its worth it. So really it's better to do you and your mom a favor go get it over with and get you the birth control you want, and give your mom the satisfaction of knowing your healthy.

[bigbee]

I agree, a pap smear is needed if you wanna have sex, you must act like a young lady and get it over and done with. It only takes a minute and the doctor will do it professionally. Your mother cares about you, she is treating you like a young lady who is growing up. My mother did the same for me when I started to have sex. I am so glad today, that she showed me the right way and helped me to face that with me. I was 15 and I know it feels awkward, but that is the waqy the cookie crumbles!

[delta]

I agree w/ bigbee. Your mom is concerned. If u r going to have sex, then u need to also have a pap. It's for your safety. It's not that bad.

[Hopeless Dork]

Married women, single women with many partners, single women with NO partners that don't have sex at all STILL get pap tests every year. Welcome to the joys of being a female. The test doesn't only check for diseases, and your bf that 'says he got tested' did you go with him? did you sit in the office when they told him his results? Did you spend every waking moment with him from the time he had the test to when you actually had sex? If the answer is no to any of those questions, you can't be 100% certain WHAT he has or does not have.

Trust is important in a relationship, but when you are talking about your health, your future and your life you have to take protecting those seriously enough to get regular exams. The test takes minutes, you are on and off the table so fast you will feel silly for worrying about it.

You are so young to be having sex, the fact that you are being so immature as to say 'nya nya nana you can['t make me" makes you sound like a small child refusing to eat her veggies. Think about that, and think about you have the rest of your adult life to put it at risk as you choose. Right now you are under your moms care, a minor and she's doing what is best for you.

Sorry if that sounds mean but you are blaming everyone around you for taking this test, sex comes with responsability and if you keep having it, you may end up having to get even more invasive tests if you get pregnant or catch a disease. Remember just a few years ago when things were more carefree and you were not worried about std tests, papsmears birth control and all that... wasn't life so much more simple? Why not go back to that and save sex for when you are old enough to handle all that stuff. If your boyfriend loves you, or even values you as a person.. he will wait.

Don't think that just because you had sex once that you might as well keep doing it, its too late etc.. Don't think that way. You can reclaim your body any time you want to and keep it for yourself.

[DaraVose]

Most gynecologists require a pap smear and a pelvic exam in order to prescribe birth control. Honestly, the pelvic exam itself is more uncomfortable than the pap smear. You would only feel a slight pressure. I get these exams each year in order to remain on birth control - honestly, I don't even feel that part of the exam any longer.