A commited man in a strip club?

[KaytKayt]

I hear what you're all saying. I know I personally wouldn't want my SO to go to a strip club. It honestly would make me feel like I wasn't enough, especially if he got a lapdance. I just don't want to think about him drooling over other women...it's just too painful. But then again, I'm a very sensitive person and I too tend to over react over some things... but if he really loves me he wouldn't hurt me like that, right? As far as I know he's never gone to one, instead he just asks me to do that sort of stuff for him, which I will...on the odd birthday lol.

[craigrobert]

If he wants to see another girls breast and butt in his face then he has a desire for another woman than his own, correct? We all have desires of things we are not suppose to have or not suppose to do. We are wrong when we give in to these desires, right?

My significant other told me he goes to strip clubs to see and a _ _. I don't want to be a nag and don't want to make this an argument with him, but HELLO, that don't make your girl feel good. I am a little upset that he desires it, but could let it go, I can't let it go that he actually goes for it with no regard to my feelings.

Is it really suppose to be okay to let your significant other get rubbed up on by the opposite sex (especially a naked or half-naked one)?

Any men on here, please tell me how would you feel if your girl wanted a penis in her face?

In response to your second question,I would be extreemly upset if my loved one went to a strip club.

And as for your original query,have you tried to talk to your (significant other),never be affraid to voice your concerns just be careful how you tackle the problem,you see when you put a question to anyone your envoiroment and tone of voice at the time is of great importance as to how your thoughts are recieved,
Show him how his actions upset you,tell him that you have love for him and that it feels like his viewing other nacked women is making you sad,because it feels like he's cheating on you.But remember he may have been going to places like these for a long time so it may be hard for him to give up,as veiwing the beautiful womans form can be adictive,yes sex is like a drug and it can be hard to give up.
Ask him if there is anything you have in your life that may hurt him,because you really want this to work.

Just be careful because if you have only been togeher for a short time it may prove difficult to make your point without appearing overly controling, he may also be vulnerable to peer preasure,although if he loves you he will try his best to stop,

I hope I have been some help to you,God bless,love Craig

[Kung Fu Kitty]

i would be more upset about his lying about it. men look,its what they do.a lapdance is out of the question.look but no touching.

[craigrobert]

Wow, have you got married. I am worried about getting too upset about it because I may make it a bigger deal than it is.

Listen it is a big deal,but the trouble is some people can become addicted to this kind of thing as well as sex films without even knowing it.plus the preasure that comes when it's all the lads together syndrome.
I don't believe that your men don't care they just see these women as objects of desire to be veiwed as a piece of meat,but unfortunatly they do not see your hurt until it's to late.Try to bring something to your love life by talking with each other about your likes and dislikes,just don't do anything that makes you uncomfertable,as you are just as important,

Remember that God loves you so you shall never be alone,you may not see him but he will send someone to help even if it's just listening to your needs.

[craigrobert]

i would be more upset about his lying about it. men look,its what they do.a lapdance is out of the question.look but no touching.

The trouble is that these days every where you look it's in your face sex and lust,
It can really grind you down because even when you try your best to overcome the desires of the flesh there are times when you feel low and you seem to fall under a spell.

[Kung Fu Kitty]

The trouble is that these days every where you look it's in your face sex and lust,
It can really grind you down because even when you try your best to overcome the desires of the flesh there are times when you feel low and you seem to fall under a spell.

oh i know... i fall under that spell everytime i watch ER.

[craigrobert]

oh i know... i fall under that spell everytime i watch ER.

I bet that you may be a little upset when that finishes then.

[Kung Fu Kitty]

I bet that you may be a little upset when that finishes then.

nope....reruns.

[craigrobert]

Haven't you heard,the makers of ER have decided that their cast offer to much pleasure to the veiwers so there pulling all the re-runs as well?

[Kung Fu Kitty]

Haven't you heard,the makers of ER have decided that their cast offer to much pleasure to the veiwers so there pulling all the re-runs as well?