How do I do this?

[KateyBaby]

I am getting married on March 21. My son is 4 years old. We want Andrew to adopt my son. HOWEVER, I was wondering if it would be easy. See, it is a long story about the "sperm donor". Long story short, he isnt around and doesnt pay child support like he should. He hasnt seen Dominic in over 2 years. Well, hasnt made any contact with him. He saw Dominic at a court hearing about child support. My mom was taking care of him while I was going to go into the room. Aaron ((the SD)) saw Dominic. Didnt say hi or even come up to Dominic to try and talk to him. He just sat in the chairs in the back. Now, Aaron is NOT on the birth certificate, nor does my son have his last name. Aaron IS supposed to pay child support but doesnt unless they threaten him, which is rare. How do I go about having Andrew adopt Dominic and get on the birth certificate? I live in FL and sometimes FL pisses me off with thinsg they do as far as children...I can go more in depth about this situation, it is just such a long story, I dont have time right now. lol. But does Aaron HAVE to sign over his rights? Can I just go and have Andrew adopt him and stop the child support? I know Aaron will still owe what he owes now ((well over $5000)) for back child support. But after that, he wont have to worry about paying for a child he doesnt even see. But, I am afraid that if he has to sign over his rights, that he wont out of spite. I dont know if there are abandonment laws here in FL...Ive tried finding out but I have no clue what I am looking for...

[Kung Fu Kitty]

i think its safe to say he will sign over his parental rights,simply because it will erase his child support obligations.i believe you have to initiate a court case regarding the adoption.if he wnats to come and fight it... he can. if not..the judge will most likely decide in your favor.

[KateyBaby]

Well, I hope this is how it works out. You know a few years back after we broke up, I asked him for some money and he told me no. ((The money was for Doms daycare while I waited for my first paycheck)) I had been asking my family for money and they had been the ones helping me out. He told me he didnt have any. So I asked him if he could ask him parents. He flat out told me no. So, a couple weeks later, Fathers Day, I asked him if he was going to get a job sinc school was out. He said no. I asked him why. He had the audacity to say, "I want to enjoy my summer" !!!!!! I could not believe him. After that I poured a root beer on him, threw the can at his head ((Got him right smack dab in the middle of his forehead lol)) and left. I told him if he didnt want to help me out with paying anything for him, then he had no reason to see Dominic. He never called. I called him asking if he wanted to see Dom. He would say "Im busy." Clearly, he had more important things to do than see his own son. Anyway, I just felt I needed to share that. lol.