Does hot clothing crank up a guy's sex drive?

[Steph33]

Any women have guy's who are into you wearing hot lingerie or other types of clothing, costumes, or outfits ?

My BF is totally turned on by the stuff and most of the frilly or cloth outfits could fit in a cigarette pack.

Now he found a new site with leather lingerie, corsets, bustiers, garters, boots up to 8 inch heels, etc.

The poor guy got his small annual bonus Friday. I just saw the print out of what he spent it all on. Don't think he understands you have to dry clean leather but his mind probably wasn't the part he was thinking with when he made his first outfit selection.

They even had all kinds of different wild wigs and he got one. Whatever he wants me in I'll play

But I really have to keep the credit card hidden, he showed me the site and wanted about $1400 worth if he had the money !!!

I'm happy with him in just a pair of boxers. I have to admit I love seeing the facial expression when he sees me wear this stuff and his obvious "ready to rock" groin area. Even though some of these shoes and boots he gets have heels so high I hardly stand in them and can't walk (not that I end up vertical in any sense of the word).

[Hopeless Dork]

I personally love sexy clothes, lingerie, corsets, thigh high stockings, heels, knee-high sexy boots, tight revealing dresses, short pleated skirts, frilly panties and the list goes on... I wear them often and while my boyfriend tells me I look nice, none of it seems to effect when he wants to have sex with me. Sometimes I will be all sexy as I can be and nothing... sometimes I am in sweats or jeans and he is all over me. I have yet to find the key or the one thing that I know will make him want me NOW NOW got to have me thing.

I keep trying to find it though

[Steph33]

I think every guy as some kind of "trigger" to crank him up. Just probably as many different kinds as there are people.

I have a couple can-be-worn-outside outfit sets for when we go to Rock/Metal concerts (stockings, high boots, gloves, very short dress, spiked collars, etc). I wore one of them once to drop of the bag lunch my BF forget to take to work, just so he'd think about me the rest of the day.

He told the job he was sick, had to go home, and was waiting at home when I got there after stopping to briefly visit my sister. Not the actual plan but neither of us minded.

He hasn't (yet) bought any kind of character "costume." But occassionally I'm on his computer when mine is recording stuff and see the sites he's visited. He's active browsing for something he wants me to wear on that end. I have a friend at work whose husband likes to temporary/washable body paint her. I'm not offering that idea or paint cans would probably show up.

He's so funny about it. On line he has no problem buying anything. But he's to embarrassed and shy to go in the underwear department of a store with me to help pick normal stuff when it's needed !!??

He does get me nice normal clothes too with great taste, but I probably have as many sets of this stuff as regular clothing sets. I have to wonder when HE will think I have enough for him to pick from, but I am amazed he finds so much different stuff. As much as I like pink, purple, and other colors, all this kind of stuff he picks is either black or white. I almost fell on the floor laughing at the wig he ordered this time. As much as he loves my mid-back length hair, it must have set off some trigger.

In a few days he'll be meeting the mailman every day looking for "his" package, worse than a kid at Christmas !! Then whenever he hands it to me it's always "this is an emergency, you have to try this on right away." It cracks me up, and I'm always thinking what got him cranked up thinking of me wearing this time. Some of the skirts or dresses he picks are so short I probably have regular belts or T-shirts that almost cover more "down there."

Maybe you should find some sites for clothing at let HIM pick instead of you. His taste might be totally different. But my guy is also like yours. Wearing one of his T-shirts and my house slippers carnks him up too.

My BF making me laugh with all this is more than half the fun, the "results" I get to enjoy when I'm dressed up in the stuff are just a bonus. This is the laughter we'll remember and laugh about when we're 70. And I'm sure even then he'll just be a "dirty old man" after me,

Now I need to find some "ultimate outfit" to put on to ask him to marry me. I doubt he'll ask just out of total fear I'll say no, even though I know he wants to.

[njman2008]

A guy's perspective here...I love sex, I want my girlfriend all the time. I do find though that when I see her in "sexier" clothes, I do experience instant arousal.

[Hopeless Dork]

Great idea about letting him pick something out, thats something I'd like to try. We have been to lingerie shops together and I pick and he thinks everything is great and thats the thing that I love about him. He doesn't seem to have any fetishes where clothes come in, if I wear sexy 6 inch platform heels to bed he reacts no different than when I am in above the knee tube socks, either way I usually get the best sex I've ever had in my life - each and every time.

Sometimes I will do it up and I step out feeling like the sexiest thing and don't get the reaction I would think it warrents lol, in those moments I feel like I am over doing it to the point that its not really a big deal. I do sexy every day for a week and it goes unnoticed, but if I step down and do casual for a few days then do sexy he notices it more.

I just love this man so much and I desire to make him as happy as he makes me, and I think for him the clothes don't matter much. I just take pride in trying to be sexy as possible when we go out, I like being the one that is in that hot dress that girls are rolling their eyes at than being the one rolling my eyes at the girl in the hot dress. I like him to be able to feel he's got something pretty attractive on his arm at all times. In doing so often I think that he's kind of unphased by what I put on.

[Richard S]

You might be surprised. If you can get your guy to fess up, he might confess that there's a pair of shorts and a tank top you just wear around the house that turns him on. Or the outfit you wear to the gym. Or the office. Or maybe you were on the soccer (football outside the US) team in college. He may be a bit embarrassed to admit how much seeing you in that uniform turned him on.

But, I can pretty much guarantee that every guy has something. For me it's office wear - the blouse, pencil skirt, stockings, high heels... Too bad my wife's office has gone casual. :-P

[Steph33]

Like I said, I'm sure every guy has some kind of trigger. But if you don't guess right the only way to know is to just ASK.

[rcoreyus]

I'm a guy (but maybe not typical). I like seeing my wife in sexy clothes, not because of the appearance in particular, but just because of the message. A long T-shirt and nothing else is just as sexy to me as frilly lacy stuff.

Clothes can also have a kinky appeal. But you may not need to spend a lot -it may be the idea more than anything else. A leather jacket (that you may already own) with nothing underneath. Or, depending on his tastes, get a few cheap items - a riding crop, or a cowboy hat, a venetian mask, lacy stockings, whatever he and you like.

[skipper]

Another guy perspective: I don't necessarily get a bang out of different outfits, but I do like it when my wife wears something sexy not b/c of what she is wearing but because of the message she is sending me: I feel sexy, I'm horny, and I want you to satisfy my primal needs. Now that's a message I respond to!

[kms]

I have spent a lot of time and money carefully picking out sexy clothes and lingerie to wear for my bf, but he usually tears it all off without even noticing it. I joke now that there's no point in even trying to wear sexy underwear because he usually gets that off at the same time as my pants so he doesn't even see it. Sometimes he'll stop and put it back on so he can see it, make a BS comment, then rip it back off, lol.