I am debating on getting breast implants.

**sallyskellington** · 03-22-2009 05:22 PM

I am overly self conscious about my chest. To the point I don't go to the beach bc I am to embarrassed to be seen. And I do things bc of my insecurities.. My husband says my boobs are fine, but I don't believe him... Guys like large breasts and I don't have them. But I am worried about getting them done what if they look worse after they are done or I get horrific scars, also bc guys don't like fake boobs they like real ones. So idk what to do... I feel like if you have fake boobs your considered gross but if your flat your considered gross... I am so confused about what I should do. Idk maybe I can get hormone shots or something instead.. Any input

**WildChild** · 03-22-2009 11:31 PM

Getting a boob job might temporarily boost your self esteem but then before long you'd find something self to put yourself down for. You need to work on you, not your boobs! Consider this, when your hubby tells you they are fine and you don't believe him that is equivalent to calling him a liar. Now how nice is that?

Not all guys like big breasts. Mine makes comments - I'm watching Hooters on TV, all the boobs are fake, I can tell. He pretty much discounts them. Surveys have found that most men are more into butts than boobs actually. You can exersize to tone and shape your butt and dress to make the most of what you have. It isn't the size so much as what you do with it! I'm small busted and have never lacked for male attention at 50+ I still get it. It's attitude my dear. Start finding things to like about yourself!

**sallyskellington** · 03-23-2009 06:29 PM

honestly I do feel he is lying when he says he likes them, so I'm not really worried about how nice it maybe. I don't really like a toned shapely butt.. I kinda think the whole beyonce look is disgusting. I am more into the Holly Madison look.
There isn't much I like other then my eye color... and some days that is debatable.

**skipper** · 04-11-2009 09:21 AM

You can find examples of what your results will be by doing a google search. Implants look great under clothes but it's usually e z to tell w/o clothes. This is greatly impacted by how big you go. YMMV. Also saline implants do not feel like breast tissue, you won't bounce like breast tissue bounces (but you will bounce some), and they don't lie on the chest like natural tissue.

My wife is a size 2 and had implants about 10 yrs ago. She had very little breast mass and went to a full b cup (about 330 cc). Now she has gone from clothes that she didn't fill out to clothes that bind when she moves. She has to pass up shirts she would otherwise want to purchase. Her experience has been positive and she would do it again in a heartbeat. And she will. She is due for a failure anytime now. They don't last forever and they require daily maintenance (massaging to help reduce scar tissue).

Your SO does love you the way you are and if you get implants he will still love you. Breasts alone do not a woman make.

If you decide to go w/ implants find a couple of board certified docs who do thousands of boobs. Visit at least 2. There is no charge for an office visit.
Do not let them fool you that it doesn't hurt. It's a very painful procedure and you won't be w/o pain until 4 to 6 wks. It will take 6 mo for your new boobs to 'settle in' and not hurt occasionally. You are doing some major stretching to your chest skin and muscle if you go under the muscle. Talk to women who have had the procedure and get their feedback. If you can't find them, send me a pm and I'll forward you to my wife. She'll be happy to discuss it with you.

There is nothing wrong w/ cosmetic surgery to help improve your self image. Just make sure you are doing it for you. Good luck with your decision.

**HappyUpNorth** · 04-11-2009 07:38 PM

Never get boobs for "guys" or even your husband the only reason to get them is for yourself, to feel better in your own skin.

**kms** · 04-13-2009 01:14 PM

If you aren't sure what option may be best for you, do some research. There are many breast augmentation forums that you can join to ask questions, view results, and learn more about all the options. It's important that you see a PS (plastic surgeon) to find out what is realistic for you, since if you're small to begin with they won't be able to make you inordinately larger due to the lack of available skin and tissue to fill out. Plus if you're a relatively small person, you can't go very large because the implants won't fit within your frame and will stick out on the sides - obviously not attractive or natural looking.

**Hopeless Dork** · 04-13-2009 02:03 PM

I have to agree with wildchild as I find this to be true for myself. I do have breast implants and have been very happy with them, but all I do now is look at all the other things about myself that I don't like. Before, my boobs were a focus for me and I thought if I did that , all would be right with the world - but now I look for other little flaws on my body. I work out like a maniac and I guess I feel I am just not that pretty in the face, I have always felt, not ugly, but definitely not a beauty. More of a plain jane.

So I guess I try to overcompensate by trying to make my body the best it can be and wearing sexy clothes. But I am trying to learn to be happy with who I am. All my life I spent feeling less than worthy of happiness and would blame anything I could about me to justify that and also became pretty self-destructive.

If you really feel that only the boobs are the issue, then surely research it and see if its right for you. But if the feelings run deeper than that, Id suggest trying to work on that first as from my experience even if you are happy with the new boobs, they don't take away all the insecurity.

**WildChild** · 04-14-2009 11:01 PM

A nice sincere smile, a good attitude and thinking sexing will do far more for you than just about anything else. Studies have found that women who get boob jobs thinking it will change their lives, makes things better, bring love or happiness - tend to end up disappointed.

Where ever you go - there you are. You take yourself with you. If you really think you need to do this, fine. But know that it won't change who you are. Work on you, on loving yourself, you are good person and deserve it!

**ThexMrs** · 06-06-2009 09:20 PM

Not all guys like big breasts. I've had NUMEROUS amounts of men tell me that more than a handful/mouthful is a waste. I myself have medium sized breasts to be honest and I've wanted them bigger but now I don't. I'm more than happy with them. They're pretty much perfect. You just need to accept yourself for you but if you can't then do whatever is going to make you happy.

**Grimlin** · 06-10-2009 11:57 PM

I'm in the same boat. I hate my small boobs. I also hate other things on my body, but those are things I'm able to change without the need/want for surgery. The other women in my family, on both sides, have bigger boobs than me ranging from high B to H and everything inbetween. I'm a medium A.

Like you, my SO tells me he likes my boobs how they are, but he also says he likes my lovehandles and pooch. Then again he also tells me my lovehandles and pooch are sexy. :/

Because of the insecurities surrounding my body, my boobs mainly, I have decided to get implants to be a small/high C depending on what looks good at my consultation. I do plan on losing as much weight as I can in my stomach before I even consider surgery simply for health reasons.