Flirting Advice

[Favored]

I think I'm a horrible flirt! Well, I know I am.

Any ladies or gents out there know how to flirt. For instance, if I text my husband or BF and say "let's get together soon" and he says "what do you have in mind" and I say "pleasure" and he says "can you be more specific" what should I say next?!

LOL...sound weird, but I'm not a good flirt at all!

[Greenflash]

IMO, being a bit vague and mysterious is the key to flirting well, and leaving plenty up to the imagination. It is the same as wering something provocative and not baring all too soon.
I am curious however when you say husband and also BF ? You are married and have a boyfriend?

[Favored]

IMO, being a bit vague and mysterious is the key to flirting well, and leaving plenty up to the imagination. It is the same as wering something provocative and not baring all too soon.
I am curious however when you say husband and also BF ? You are married and have a boyfriend?

LOL! NO, I don't have either. I was just saying, you can answer regarding a boyfriend or husband. I'm not that good! Thanks for the post.

[rcoreyus]

For me the fun of flirting is making the other person feel wanted, and making them think that something *might* happen. I don't think it works well in an established relationship because it lacks the mystery. You can hint / be suggestive, etc with your spouse, but I'm not sure it is really flirting. Might just be my definition.

[sourpuss]

So rcoreyus, what type of flirting do guys like to see from a gal? I cannot flirt at all and I'm totally oblivious when someone is flirting with me. Give me some ideas here.

[WildChild]

I think it's great in an established relationship, maybe it isn't quite what some would call flirting but you can have alot of fun with word play. The LOML loves this, I get texts, H "News says they caught that cashier shooter",
M "good, No more worry about that",
H "No worry, I have a weapon",
M "Is it loaded?",
H "and ready"
M "are you ready to shoot?"
This can quickly get pretty graphic, we have a lot of fun with it. But then we both equate everything with sex...it keeps things juicy.

[Tina Shiman]

I am an expert in flirting, its so easy. All you have to do is SMILE a lot and everyone is open to chatting with you. I try to smile any time I can and get lots of attention from men everywhere I go, always have. Everyone know of me as charming ;O)

[Richard S]

Texting is too obvious. Flirting can be subtle, like suggesting a casual lunch date then showing up with a short skirt and killer heels, so when you walk into the restaurant all the heads turn, but you're there with HIM. That's the kind of thing that gets a guy's attention.

You need to find a trusted female (or gay male) friend and try to figure out what attributes you have that get people's attention, then learn how to work those things based on what your intention is. I mean, what *is* your intention? To encourage a particular guy to make a move? Or just to spread your wings and test the limits of what's out there?

If we knew the answers to these questions we'd be in a better position to help.

[rcoreyus]

I suspect we are all different. I like subtle. A smile and glance. Paying attention / listening to someone is very flattering. Its funny, when I try to write it down, I can't think of anything....I'll ponder a bit and post more later.

So rcoreyus, what type of flirting do guys like to see from a gal? I cannot flirt at all and I'm totally oblivious when someone is flirting with me. Give me some ideas here.

[dr.mansview]

I am an expert in flirting, its so easy. All you have to do is SMILE a lot and everyone is open to chatting with you. I try to smile any time I can and get lots of attention from men everywhere I go, always have. Everyone know of me as charming ;O)

you are so right tina..if a girl smiles at me she gets my attention..not smiling will not work, unless you are licking your lips and staring at a man..but i would classify that as acting seductive..that sends a whole different message than a smile does..