serious sister problems

[acerousme]

Okay, so MOST of you know the history between my eldest sister and I....butttt...just in case, I will give you a breif history lesson


she is an ex meth-addict who was recently diagnosed with schitzophrenia, who hates my other sister because she is dating the elder sisters ex, and evidently...the neices daddy. (messed up, I KNOW)....

and now my eldest sister thinks I am a spoiled brat. I bought my birth-mother a garden swing for mothers day, because she had always wanted one...so I surprised her with it ( AND BUILT IT...wooo...and Im so not mechanically inclined), and now my sister is being a MAJOR.....pimple on my bum because of it...talking behind my back, and saying very rude things to me.

Now if I mention it to her, she will try to beat me up....again.

any suggestions as to what I should do??

[Joy]

I think the gift was nice and maybe it has stemmed a lil jealousy from your sister who is schitzophrenic. She is lucky to have a supporting family but unfortunatly her mind doesn't perceive it that way. Everyone is out to get her and she can' t help the negativity and paranoia that basically drowns her everyday.

Then your other sister is dating your sick sister's baby's daddy? That probably hurts and makes her act out more.

You are innocent and getting hurt in their drama and conflitcs you did something nice but getting a big backlash for it am i right?

[acerousme]

Joy- OOOOOHHH YES! Its bad...its getting worse. I hate it....i JUST do not know what to do...it kills me when she starts on me....You are so right. I just....grrr

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Ace....

Firstly, never, ever change from whom you are...

Making something and buying something to give someone you love, and spending time and effort in doing so, "giving" is the most beautifulilst thing and treasured...

That is who you are, don't change.

That is what life is about giving without expectations of receiving back.

What you did, was special and don't let someone make you feel otherwise.

Your sister is your sister, you can't change that... But, she also has problems, ones as Joy said you can't change either, paranoia sets in there is nothing you can do, it's whom she now is.

So 1) You have to see your sister is sick, and with that knowledge smile when she says things that hurt, knowing that it is her sickness that speaks...

and:-

2) She lives further away from you, so mostly it's a special occasion when you see her, or via a telephone, email... Learn to say sorry love got to go and hang up, don't listen to it... And, if in person? Go back to 1).....

Life wasn't meant to be easy but understanding people are people and we can't change them only accept them all for who they are, is life too.

CW

[WildChild]

It's unfortunate she feels this way but it really doesn't have anything to do with you. Stay away as much as you can, just keep some distance and above all don't give her an opportunity to harm you.

[Joy]

The changing of the seasons can be worst for your sister as well... i know someone who is schitzophrenic and the season changing always affects their mood swings as well.

If she has just been diagnosed and being put on medication then it takes a while for respirdale or whatever she is on to actually be given in the correct dose and level her out.

I know how much this is hurting you i've had to deal with it personally and some days its really hard to suck up the abuse from it. make sure your safe from harm but try to forgive your sister she really has a battle on her hands of sorting herself out. One day when the medication works a bit you will have your sister back... but those drugs will make her tired, a lil sluggish, and not that great for her overall health.

You did the right thing with the gift that was very sweet and hang onto the joy it gave your heart to give it to your mom. Hang onto the positive about the situation and try to manage with a buffer the negative side affects Ace good luck hun

[kim01]

hi im new here and something similar happend to me as well ... my sister's ex is currently dating me and my mom and dad are trying to make me happy by allowing me to date him i know she is mad but when she is confronted she says its ok shes happy with me but im really in love with him and he is to he recently came home to ask me for marriage ... and my dad has been really mean about the whole situation saying that i need to pull away but im so confused because if i pull away that means im making them happy and sacraficing my own happiness and i just need some help if anyone can give me some advice it would mean alot .. thanks

[ThexMrs]

This is tough because I don't have a sister. I have two older brothers. The best thing I could think of is just to ignore her. She's sick and she's obviously jealous. Don't let anything she does or says get to you and don't sink down to her level.