Having some serious problems in the bedroom..

[mummyof2]

Ok, I have made a similar post to this one but things seem to b goin from bad to very bad atm with my partner.ill start from the beginning we have been together for 3 months he stays at my house about 3 mayb 4 nights a week. everything was perfect sex wise but last 2 times he has stayed he was having trouble lasting longer then like 2 seconds(he says he has never had this problem b4) then he was having trouble stayin hard for long enough to start (seems to b during foreplay though)well now he has trouble even getting hard at all if he does its only for about 5 mins, we are using different condoms could that b the problem i have noticed since we have been using them we havnt actually done anything really cause he seems to go soft or wateva...... any ideas would b GREAT! lol

[x.st.angel.x]

From personal experience i remember once my bf not being able to get it up just one time...and i realised it was because something was on his mind and he just couldnt focus or get into the mood...whether or not thats the problem with you im not sure....With the condoms it could be that...maybe try sticking to one brand or using another form of protection

[Jayla2251]

He could be stressing out about something. My bf, who I have been with for four years, we tried to have sex the first time and he couldnt get hard. He has problems with just getting hard for anybody. He also had problems with not lasting, and still sometimes doesnt last but a couple minutes. Condoms help this. He could also, if it's a big thing, go to the Dr. and get a script. My bf did that once, he got viagara. We've only used half a pill one time, but it sure did work! Switching the condoms up could be it, if he's using diff. types some are made for men to feel more and some are made for women to feel more. Just depends. If you two are open to trying something diff. Toys help. I finally bought a vibrator this year and my bf enjoys using it on me and it helps him get hard again. You could try some video stuff also, to get him excited.

[mummyof2]

thanks, yeh im not sure what it is...everything was fine and now all of a sudden its gettnig worse, he stayed last night for first time in a few days and he hardly got it in and yeh..... yep we tried toys he seemed excited but it just didnt cooperate with him lol. i hav never been with anyone who has this trouble..and im feeling like im not doing anything right. im just running out of ideas..

[WildChild]

How old is he? How is his general health?

[Swiftus]

Women: This stuff does happen. Men in their prime have this happen to them. It is NOT you. I've known guys in high school that couldnt get their soldier to stand at attention. I've known guys in their 70s who've never had this issue.

This problem can be compounded with drug/alcohol usage. Smoking also can do it.

Please don't blame yourself. You could put on a sexual spectacle and it may not budge. Don't let it keep you up at night.

[WildChild]

A physical may be in order. There are a number of health conditions that can cause problems and some, like testicular cancer, are deadly if not caught and treated in time.

[happy ending]

you have only been seeing him for three months? are you sure he hasnt just reverted to normal? maybe this is what he is like, wheras his previous preformance was just new love? are you sure its your problem? he says his never had this problem before, well how do you know. you dont talk about feelings etc, maybe time to kick him to the kerb!

[mummyof2]

Wild child: he is almost 33. Hmm as of health he does like to drink a little..like not alot but a little bit lol. he has some other minor health issues..so not sure if that is the problem.

Happy ending: Yeh have been very friendly for about 12 months b4 we made it official and started sleeping together, we do talk about our feelings we have both been through alot of together previous to us getting together. I dont think our relatioship has a problem kicking him to the kerb mite b a bit harsh...

[mummyof2]

dont mind me, i just re read the 3rd line there doesnt make much sense, forget the word "together" that doesnt belong there