ocd & anxiety

[mdraven380]

I suffer from anxiety, depression and ocd. I was always under the impression that ocd just meant that you washed your hands a hundred times a day and that you counted stuff. I never thought is involved some of the things I do. Since I have lost 3 family members in 6 years all my symptoms have become worse. Plus the fact tath my bf chose to contact his ex wife via texting which was a huge mistake on his part. Don't know if I'll ever trust him fully now. I have a psot about that situation in the thread of "introduce yourself".

I was just wondering if anyone here suffers from these conditions? I'm currently in therapy and taking a small amount of medication for anxiety. I think I would have been ok if my bf wouldn't have done what he did to me with his ex.
My ocd is way worse now and I'm trying to find a way to get a handle on it before his ex starts back up again.

[che143ever]

i am so sorry to hear that you are going through a lot, must be very hard for you.
why do you think he contacted his Ex Wife? did you read the messages?

[che143ever]

i am so sorry to hear that you are going through a lot, must be very hard for you.
why do you think he contacted his Ex Wife? did you read the messages?

[happy ending]

i suffer from panic attacks, horrible horrible things they are. they used to control my life, now i am trying to show them whos the boss. some days are more successful than others. take care honey, post whenever and whatever you feel like it, no one here will judge you, there is an incredible amount of wise people here and they will support you. take care.

[mdraven380]

I was unable to red the texts my bf sent his ex wife.
Now to make matters worse my Dad passed away July 23rd. I was with him just hours before he died. I watched him suffer so much and it was horrible.

I'm going to counseling. I think I'm in shock. I feel kinda numb.
I have been taking an extra half dose of my ativan to sleep at night.
I have lost three family members in 10 months and had to deal with my bf texting his ex wife all because I put up a fuss about him possibly going on a tour with his band for 3 weeks. Now the tour is cancelled so it was all for nothing. He was trying for some reason to get her support and claims he doesn't love her anymore plus the fact that she is married! She has been with the same man for 15 years but claims she still love my bf who is her ex husband. Rediculous!
I have OCD so even though I found out about him tecting his ex 3 months agao I'm still stuck on it. Maybe becasue she constantly writes horrible things about me on her MYspace. Which I know I should read and I didn't read for a while when my dad passed, but now I'm back to looking again. She has since erased soe of the she wrote. She had written" Noticing someone is obsessed with there(her spelling was wrong) boyfriend's Ex, Get a life you Freak!" This is what she had written. plus other things about liars and how she is not one when that is the furthest thing from the truth.
Now that I have comments about how much I miss my dad she has erased some of the things she had written about me but has left other there.
This angers me so much and wish so badly my bf would have never involved her in our problems. She is a trouble maker and I pray to God she goes away and he has no more contact with her whatso ever.

[OG612]

Raven

Quit upping your dose of ativan. I'm a psych nurse and can tell you from firsthand experience that if you keep this up, you'll end up going on haldol and that is not fun.

Your boyfriend's a loser and doesn't deserve you if he's pulling this kind of . She's his ex for a reason. Aside from them having kids together, there's no logical reason why he should have her phone number after 15+ years of separation. Especially a cell phone number.

I don't think you have OCD. I just think that you're obsessing over him and his contact with another woman in a friendly fashion (regardless of past history). I can even lead you through a very powerful form of spiritual healing called a Heart Retrieval to make the process easier and faster. Because of the emotional vulnerability involved, I do not charge for this kind of thing and it can be done over the phone or Skype since we're in two different parts of the country.

I also understand your depression. Losing family members that quickly is enough to get anybody down. One way to help combat your depression (drug free) is to live by the expression "energy flows where attention goes."

What this means is that your own personal energy/life force/whatever you want to call it, works in direct correlation with your focus/attention. If your thoughts are positive (and I understand how hard this can be right now) and you can keep that going there, your energy will follow. You'll be riding a very nice natural "high." All these feel good chemicals will begin to trickle down from your brain and make you feel just downright yummy!

Conversely, if your thoughts are focused on death, dying, and heartache, then your own energy is going to go there as well. You'll be blue all the time.

Also, if your psych doctor wants to put you on Zyprexa or Abilify... be cautious. They were only recently approved by the FDA to treat depression. Before that they were anti-psychotic meds. Your ativan is fine for now. Just don't up the dosage to help you sleep. There are a million natural/alternative things you can do to induce a deep sleep.

OG

[mdraven380]

Raven

Quit upping your dose of ativan. I'm a psych nurse and can tell you from firsthand experience that if you keep this up, you'll end up going on haldol and that is not fun.

Your boyfriend's a loser and doesn't deserve you if he's pulling this kind of . She's his ex for a reason. Aside from them having kids together, there's no logical reason why he should have her phone number after 15+ years of separation. Especially a cell phone number.

I don't think you have OCD. I just think that you're obsessing over him and his contact with another woman in a friendly fashion (regardless of past history). I can even lead you through a very powerful form of spiritual healing called a Heart Retrieval to make the process easier and faster. Because of the emotional vulnerability involved, I do not charge for this kind of thing and it can be done over the phone or Skype since we're in two different parts of the country.

I also understand your depression. Losing family members that quickly is enough to get anybody down. One way to help combat your depression (drug free) is to live by the expression "energy flows where attention goes."

What this means is that your own personal energy/life force/whatever you want to call it, works in direct correlation with your focus/attention. If your thoughts are positive (and I understand how hard this can be right now) and you can keep that going there, your energy will follow. You'll be riding a very nice natural "high." All these feel good chemicals will begin to trickle down from your brain and make you feel just downright yummy!

Conversely, if your thoughts are focused on death, dying, and heartache, then your own energy is going to go there as well. You'll be blue all the time.

Also, if your psych doctor wants to put you on Zyprexa or Abilify... be cautious. They were only recently approved by the FDA to treat depression. Before that they were anti-psychotic meds. Your ativan is fine for now. Just don't up the dosage to help you sleep. There are a million natural/alternative things you can do to induce a deep sleep.

OG

1. I haven't upped my dose of ativan. It's the same as it has been for 6 years.
In fact it is actually lower then when I first started when my mom passed away.

2. My Bf and his ex DO NOT have any children together.
He was seeing her right before we got together and that was why he still had her number. And yes maybe he is a loser for contacting her anbd hurting me the way he did. But I'm giving him a second chance since all he did was text her. She is married, but wants to leave her husband and wants my BF back. My BF doesn't want to be with her.

[tritonalum07]

Raven,

I want you to ask yourself something. Do you really want to be with someone who allows an EX of 15+ years to talk about you the way she does? Did he do anything to stop it? You need to find that out. If she is married, how was he seeing her before the two of you got together? Was she cheating on her husband, or did she get married after the two of you met? I personally have OCD, so I understand dwelling on things that you don't want to dwell on. And it's not just about washing your hands/germs/counting. It can be much more severe and intrusive. Being in a relationship with trust issues is not going to help you cope with your anxiety.

[Miya]

MDraven,

I'm very sorry to hear you are suffering from these afflictions. They can be very debilitating and hard to deal with without support from others. (my husband went through a bout of depression for a long time and it got worse when his mother unexpectedly passed away.

I'm sure you've seen many website regarding OCD spectrum disorders but wanted to post another one here. The woman who started this was a professor of mine at one time and she's an excellent psychologist and delightful person in general. (I was once an adviser in the chatrooms for people who came in and just wanted to talk.)


Just know that understanding that these disorders (despite what anyone else may think) are real diseases with real treatment. It always bothered me that so many people pay so much attention to cellular or physical disease when the mind is largely forgotten or people are shunned.

My warmest wishes to you and all who are or have gone through this fight. Stay strong, really pay attention to practice of CBT and it will pass.

Miya

[Miya]

OG, just a curious question based on your experience...

Have you had the opportunity to form a basis of opinion about profession is more effective in treatment (if the treatment didn't involve meds); Psychologist or Psychiatrist?
(I know the primary differences between the two)

I was just curious as I've know people in both fields and have seen from my rather limited experience that while there are people who really need the drugs, necessitating Psychiatrist, there are many more who benefit just as well if not better through straight CBT or Marsha Lineman's Dialectical Behavior Therapy (for Borderline PD patients).

Thanks!

Miya