2 Faced MIL! URG

[DramaFree]

Where do I begin?

I have been with my Husband since 2004. Calculating that's almost 6 years. I have been dealing with outsiders butting in our marriage since I met him. Okay, well, about 6 weeks into our relationship. We met at work, and hit it off. We were so happy! We had things in common. I had been divorced for a year and a half, and he was the first guy I had an interest in since my ex. I have a son, he was 18 months when DH and I met. My DH had a son that was 6 weeks old when we met. His son lived 5.5 hours away in another city. He only saw his son every other weekend for about 3 months. The only question I asked my DH when we were dating...was if he was involved with the Mother of his Son!? He said no. One day I get a call from him 6 weeks into our relationship. So that makes his Son 3 months old. My DH says in tears that his son died at daycare. So, I freaked out and left work to go be with my DH (boyfriend at the time) I drive him the 6 hours to his families house.... and that's when all this drama began.

I never met his child, never had met the Mother of his child either. I met his whole family under these grim circumstances. They all fell in love with me and my son. Ok, so I have painted a picture of how good our relationship was and how everybody met. My DH explained to me that he never had a relationship with his son's mom or a desire to be with her ever. He said it was a drunkin' one night stand. His family had nothing for the baby's mom. My MIL told me that my DH was NOT going to every Marry that baby's mom and that she wasn't very bright. Ok..ok but when I took my DH up for the funeral, I wasn't invited to go and visit the baby's mom when my DH and his parents went by her house. I stayed at the DH grandparents with my son, while DH and his parents went to pay there respects to the Baby's mom. WTF?? Like I wasn't even there. Ok. Here we are almost 6 years later and my MIL is keeping in touch with the baby's mama and her whole family. WHY? I can list numerous events where the Babys mama family is invited over when my DH and our kids are up there visitng at my MIL. Or stupid things like that. Now I've got my MIL starting drama. Why would she even want to talk to that baby mama? After all MIL told me that they are all trashy and no good. So I wonder what my MIL tells them about me? gosh. So recently... I posted a pic of my DH son that passed, on Myspace, and stated that God gave kids Mothers to protect them and care for them. That a Mother should NEVER place her infant on an adult bed inbetween pillow. Because the baby died from suffocation. Even though the death report says SIDS. The death report has many other medical terms with point to suffocation, and NOT SIDS. So, I didn't accuse anybody...even though my DH family preaches that they lost a grandchild to suffocation, and NOT SIDS. They just forgot to tell the Babys' Mama that thats what they think.

So, like I said, I didn't mention anything about the babys mama in my post. Just that it never should of happened, and that God gave children moms for a reason...to protect. I got all of these dirty e-mails and text msg, and VM from the baby mama, and her SIL? WTF? I didn't tell them to go look at my myspace. I can post anything I want. It's no different than a SIDS awareness post that they have on there pages. So guess who calls my MIL!? Baby Mama and her stupid SIL. My MIL is on a 10 day Alaskan cruise, and they call her right in the middle of it and cry to her about my post, saying it looks like I am staying that the baby mama hurt her son, or something like that. Nobody in my family has said anything to me incuding my MIL. So my MIL tells baby mama that NO they don't think the grandbaby suffocated and that baby mama will always be a part of us. (our family) My DH has no relationship with baby mama...or her family. He married me, not her. So why is my MIL starting all this drama? MY DH doesn't know his mom talks to baby mama and had no idea she includes her in family functions. And to top that off, on Facebook baby mama has added all my family as a friend and they added her? I have no idea why...they all tell me that they don't like her. Maybe they feel bad for her...but still. THey have no respect for me.

My family's flying to there house this coming weekend. I am going to wait for my MIL to bring it up, cause I know she will. Then I'm going to tell her...

YOU pick her or me(my family) point blank! I am done..6 years listening about some one night stand...ugh. Make me sick.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I am flabagasted at this post sincerely...

Firstly you were only with your current husband for a few weeks before his son died (IN DAYCARE)...

Off course you weren't invited? WT? You were new to start with and secondly, his son just died, the Mother of his son was grieving why would she want to meet a girl who was dating the father at that point in time?

I wasn't invited to go and visit the baby's mom when my DH and his parents went by her house. I stayed at the DH grandparents with my son, while DH and his parents went to pay there respects to the Baby's mom. WTF?? Like I wasn't even there. Ok. Here we are almost 6 years later and my MIL is keeping in touch with the baby's mama and her whole family. WHY? I can list numerous events where the Babys mama family is invited over when my DH and our kids are up there visitng at my MIL. Or stupid things like that. Now I've got my MIL starting drama. Why would she even want to talk to that baby mama? After all MIL told me that they are all trashy and no good. So I wonder what my MIL tells them about me? gosh. So recently... I posted a pic of my DH son that passed, on Myspace, and stated that God gave kids Mothers to protect them and care for them. That a Mother should NEVER place her infant on an adult bed inbetween pillow. Because the baby died from suffocation.

So recently (6 years later) you post a picture of your husbands dead child and then use the words above? The Mother had nothing to do with the death to start with the baby was in daycare... But using your husband's dead son's photo and then talking about something totally different (meaning the Mother had nothing to do with it, the baby was in daycare) would have been devastating to her, not to mention seeing her dead son just to start with.

With death comes a bond... Your Dear Husband's family has bonded with the woman due to the death of their grandchild, nephew, and that's completely natural.

I have nothing to say further on this post............

Other than I can't believe what you are even writing nor comprehending what "awee's" you expect from this Forum...

Oh dear.

CW

[happy ending]

you sound really mean, you have a living child, a loving husband what does this other poor woman have. the baby may not have lived for long but it was a bond between the two woman. i would definately NOT give your MIL this ultamatum. i dont think it will work well for you.

[WildChild]

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