Nasty inlaws

[ggarcia2587]

Im in a situation in which i have been with my other half for almost 3 years and his sister after more than 2 years all of the sudden told me she hated me and his mother too simply because i wanted to throw a surprise birthday party for my bf. She has always been problamatic and she is violent and she kicked me out of their house infront of my bf's 4 year old who is now traumatized. His father loves me and the rest of his family too but Little did we know i was going to get pregnant and now i dont know what to do....i dont want my child around them because of my fear of them treating her bad too or getting violent with her. I have never done anything bad to those people, on the contrary...i was always there when they needed me and i did not see this coming. My bf and i have argued severly over this because he was there when it happened and i understand that is his family, but isnt it my job to protect my child? i just dont know what to do...someone please tell me how to get out of this

[Joy]

well how long has it been since they kicked you out of the house? Has enough time passed for you guys to work towards forgiving each other for the wrongs that have been done?

They feel you've done wrong but you see nothing wrong with it ( I agree a surprise party is no biggie) That is probably just a cover there must be a few deeper issues there is my guess.

They've done wrong by kicking you out of their house ..... which they feel is their house and they have every right so they don't view it as anything bad that they've done. I can understand how it hurt and embrassed you a bit probably.

Life is too short to spend it fueding with people. Look for a new beginning from everyone involved a baby is coming that is something wonderful to celebrate.

If the situation never resolves its self then you can always limit your childs alone time with them some how. I hope you guys find some peace and harmony

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Im in a situation in which i have been with my other half for almost 3 years and his sister after more than 2 years all of the sudden told me she hated me and his mother too simply because i wanted to throw a surprise birthday party for my bf. She has always been problamatic and she is violent and she kicked me out of their house infront of my bf's 4 year old who is now traumatized. His father loves me and the rest of his family too but Little did we know i was going to get pregnant and now i dont know what to do....i dont want my child around them because of my fear of them treating her bad too or getting violent with her. I have never done anything bad to those people, on the contrary...i was always there when they needed me and i did not see this coming. My bf and i have argued severly over this because he was there when it happened and i understand that is his family, but isnt it my job to protect my child? i just dont know what to do...someone please tell me how to get out of this

I can't work out why they would get upset because you wanted to provide a suprise birthday party, okay, I get that there could be an arguement there, ie) they wanted to do something instead but to say they hate you?

I am actually wondering if this all occured because around the time they ascertained that you were pregnant and then thought to let you know that they don't like you, for their reasons what ever those reason are.

Do you care to elaborate perhaps a little more?

CW