he wants to cum on my face..?

[OG612]

Deja vu!

This is kind of embarrassing to talk to the world about, BUT my boyfriends fantasy is to literally go on my face.. like aim it in my mouth...

I get that its a weird porn-fantasy (i guess) but I feel like we have a great sex life without that... and for some reason i can't help but think it is so degradingggg!!!!! even though, i love him, and it is only him and i in the bedroom, i still can't really except it.

I tried it a couple time, but.. i dont know. --do i keep letting him do it, and maybe get used to it after awhile? IS it even NORMAL? do guys really cum in girls faces all the time (a common fantasy?) ?! Let me know what you think...

If I'm spraying a load at a woman's face, it's directly in her mouth while she's giving me head. Do I have fantasies about giving you a facial with my pimp juice? No.

Porn is too caught up with penises. You cannot find a scene (unless it's lesbian porn) that does not have a man's in it. Honestly, I think heterosexual porn is highly homoerotic with the way they emphasis the .

If you are not completely and totally comfortable with the idea of him ejaculating ON your face, then tell him to give up the fantasy because it's not working for you.

I don't care how much you love him. IF he's obsessed with painting your face with sperm, but you simply detest it, then find something else.

Take control of your sexual fantasies and desires. You're a woman. Ultimately, it's you having the power to say "NO" that makes you more powerful than a man in the bedroom.

OG

[Ravsoma]

Great advice. The OP should throw her own preferences out the window and cater to his every desire so he won't leave her. I mean, why does she need a voice or opinions of her own at all???

I say, do what you want, don't do what you dislike. It's YOUR body. If your guy loves he should respect you and your limits.

Your sarcasm was not needed and you could have given your opinion without getting nasty.

[Little]

May I remind everyone that we do not tolerate rudeness between members. If you have something to say, say it politely. The golden rule is the most important rule that we have.

[needanswer99]

dear baileyg

I do not know it is normal man fantasy or not....
but you r right ....it is porn fantasy.....

When I first saw it with my husband in a porn film...
I feel embarassed....but my husband told me in joking manner that he is tempted to do it after he saw that...thanks to him he never tried that...

but this idea definitely from porn films....and men are tend to get temptation..
your reaction is normal ....

u r right ..you can try to gaurd it ....
some of friends here gave you good advices.

remember!!! men fantacies are limitless...and nowadays porngraphy has added it......it is WE as girls to regulate it with gentle manner and it takes sometimes a little time....

I advice.....


just explain your true feelings to your boyfriend. Usually if he loves you !!! believe me he would hate to become selfish. and respect your feeling.

lastly try to give them sex as much and in as different positions as possible.

believe me ..we discovered many many different ways to enjoy vaginal intercourse and foreplay...for change....but not something oral/anal/or coming to face..yes i do not mind if he cum any where down the neck....
in the meantime I also try never to refuse him sex anytime ,,,,when he cares for my feeling.............

good luck

[WildChild]

LOL those "macho" men do like to see themselves (and others on film) getting off don't they? Some of them like watching more than they actually like the real thing it seems.

[PJhavinfunagain]

I totally understand how you feel and agree with the above posters that your frame of mind determines if it is degrading. Now I would not like to do it all the time but I would let my guy do it every now and again but he needs to make sure you are SUPER reved up! Make sure he knows you are not entirely inot it but will work on it together. If you absolutely HATE it and it makes you shut down then no question he should be able to restrain himself. If this one little thing makes him go somewhwew else then we it was not meant to be.

[PJhavinfunagain]

Take control of your sexual fantasies and desires. You're a woman. Ultimately, it's you having the power to say "NO" that makes you more powerful than a man in the bedroom.
OG

Ohhhhh I like this!!!! hehehe....

[stressed]

Well, bf likes doing that too and always asks if i mind or if i find it degrading, as he wouldn't want me to feel anything like that. I personally don't mind it at all; if it makes him feel good then it's good enough for me and I know he respects me. I just believe that most things can be allowed in the bedroom as long as both agree. You don't always have to connect the rest of the relationship with what you do to each other during sex. Some times it can only be about a fantasy or role play without it reflecting any feelings or thoughts towards you.

I agree that it's a common fantasy but I also agree that you shouldn't be forced into anything that makes you uncomfortable. If you are 100% against it then I guess he'll just have to manage with watching it in a porn clip instead.

[OG612]

Ohhhhh I like this!!!! hehehe....

It's the truth.

OG

[Kakie]

I get that its a weird porn-fantasy (i guess) but I feel like we have a great sex life without that... and for some reason i can't help but think it is so degradingggg!!!!! even though, i love him, and it is only him and i in the bedroom, i still can't really except it.

I tried it a couple time, but.. i dont know. --do i keep letting him do it, and maybe get used to it after awhile? IS it even NORMAL? do guys really cum in girls faces all the time (a common fantasy?) ?! Let me know what you think...

i agree with what everyone has said about not doing things you don't want to in the bedroom, not if you find it degrading. it doesnt matter how willing he is to do things for you, or how much he wants it, you should still stay within your own comfort boundaries..
but i'm mainly writing to answer your second lot of questions - it is a normal thing for guys to want, in my experience, my current bf loves to cum in my mouth, or on my face or breasts.. i personally don't get anything from it or see how it appeals to him, but as i have no problem doing it i let him, as he seems to enjoy it.. so i dont think your partner is abnormal at all..