What can an ugly girl do?

[Ugly Girl]

I am ugly. It's confirmed. Whenever I'm out, alone or with my friends, no guys look at me, whereas they get all the attention. I've been called ugly all my life, even in college. And I look at myself in the mirror, and my sparse hair, manly face, small breasts, huge hips, flat butt and cellulite ridden thighs are no flattering features, let me tell you.

This has caused many problems, and everyday at campus I see so many gorgeous girls and I envy them, and wish that I looked like them so badly! They have such full hair, femenine faces and nice bodies. I'm not fat, but being thin doesn't equal with being attractive. I already described myself, so yeah.

And what upsets me the most are my small breasts. I don't know, but around here guys seem to prefer big breasts, even fake ones, to small natural breasts. Plus my areolas are so big, that they look awful on small breasts. I would never get surgery though. But all of this makes me so mad!

I don't know what to do. I know nothing short of surgery or hair extensions (i.e. all FAKE "enhancements") would help me, and even then I don't know if they truly could (since, hey, there isn't surgery for backs that are too broad, or hips that are too wide or for a manly jaw or for lack of hair). I feel so ugly, and I'm so bitter towards society, because everyday more beautiful women are shown. I know it's the inside that matters, but honestly, all men want a girl who has a great inside AND who is beautiful.

How can I embrace my ugliness? All I wish is that I was beautiful, that I was noticed, that men would look at me twice... but 'acting confident' hasn't helped, and therapy didn't either. It's all wishful thinking. I'm desperate, I HATE being ugly!

[Chantalemma]

All that you haev mentioned is on the outside. You must be the most beautiful person on the inside. The physique of a person is not all that matters. I have to say I envy you for going for therapy and feeling confident. I don't always and that is for sure. I want you to know that yes there is always someone better looking than us. I have a problem with having to many man hormones. I have facial hair and lots of hair on my body. It is dark too. It is something I have to live with. It doesn't make me uglier or nicer looking. It doesn't matter what you look like. Yes now days the physique of some people are persuaded to be beautiful. It is trully what is inside your heart and soul that makes you beautiful. I trully beleive that. And one day you will beleive me. I am wishing you the best of luck and you will find that special someone that sees you for you.

Take Care of yourself beautiful lady.

[dr.mansview]

if u feel ugly i'm sure you project that image to the men u meet..have u ever seen those makeover shows on tv..the transformation is amazing on some girls..if u have the money get a complete makeover from an expert..

as far as the small breasts and large areolas are concerned, why do u assume that is a bad thing..many men prefer small breasts despite what the media tells u..personally i find large areolas very sexy on large or small breasts..don't assume that all men like the same body type, they don't..
u don't have to "embrace your ugliness"..make yourself the best you can be and embrace THAT..

[Nats]

Have you ever read some of those high fashion magz? Or watched one of the fashion television channels on TV? I am an avid fan of both...And as an avid fan, let me tell you, some of the world's biggest and brightest designers have models for their clothes that, should they appear as they are, on the street, they would be vastly ignored...Most of them are stick-thin, have "mannish" faces or features, oddly proportioned bodies and breasts about as teeny-weeny as possible..Yet these are faces of media, of magazines and television, on catwalks and runways...So this whole beauty thing is just a matter of perception...You think you're pretty, really think it and make yourself believe it, and it'll be true for you and everyone around you...So throw on some make up, get your hair and nails done, buy a sexy little black dress and paint the town in rainbows, 'cause baby, you're a beautiful bombshell!

[ThexMrs]

Have you seen that makeup commercial on tv where they say that "Beauty is on the outside." No, I'm not you. It says that "Beauty is on the outside." How up is that? That's the society we live in though.

Here's the thing... Everyone... Let me repeat that... EVERYONE is BEAUTIFUL to SOMEONE. That's the gods honest truth. Someone out there thinks you are beautiful. You just haven't met them... Or maybe you have and they're too shy to tell you or , maybe they feel just like you and think you'll reject them.

Don't be so hard on yourself. It really is what's on the outside that counts. It just seems that what is on the outside is the reason people get to know us on the inside. It's bull but that's life and we can't change it. Not one person, alone.

Get creams, shampoos, pills whatever you want if that will make you feel better but really, just accept yourself and love yourself. You ARE beautiful and that's no lie.

[ThexMrs]

I meant inside when I wrote, "It really is what's on the outside that counts." It should read, "It's really what's on the inside."

[Hopeless Dork]

Your inner beauty will outshine anything going on outside. If you think/feel you are unnatractive and that shows through its not going to attract people. When you feel good about yourself -- it will show through and make you more attractive to those around you.

Some girls are natural beauties and roll out of bed perfect 10's, that card just wasn't dealt to all of us and you work with what you have , focus on your positives and do things to make yourself feel beautiful.

Join a gym. You can build up that backside of yours with squats and firm those thighs with with some cardio and weights. Not so that you will please other people, but so that YOU will feel better about YOU.

Get those hair extensions, you'd be surpised ... they are very very popular. A lot of those girls with pretty hair you envy have them. You can just do it once and see how you feel. Even beauty stores sell those clip in ones, have fun spicing up your hair.

Breasts, don't worry about it... a lot of men could careless about them. If you want to try to enhance, try a padded bra and see if it makes you feel good now and then.

Don't underestimate the power of make up and dressing your body in a way that is flattering.

Wear longer shirts that cover your rear end -- wear jeans with buttoned back pockets... those can make your behind seem less flat.

There are lots of little things you can do to tweek your appearance to make you feel good about yourself , but feeling good about yourself is the key. How you carry yourself, how you walk, the eye contact and smiles you give will put you in a much brighter light then if you walk around hunched over staring at the ground.

[Ravsoma]

I am going to catch a lot of for this.

This is how I feel: If you are truly ugly (and you claim that you are) then the best way to cope with it is to accept it. Of course, everyone has their own definition of beautiful and if you don't fit into it... well, then you don't. There is no amount of pampering that can make you feel differently when someone doesn't even bother giving you a second glance. Sure, you might have a lovely personality, but people can't see it and they won't judge your personality right off the bat; they will judge your looks.

I used to be one of those people who said "inner beauty is what counts," but the passing years have shown me that people get more and more shallow as the days go by. I'm a perfect example of it. I won't even talk to someone, male or female, if they're not physically attractive, but that's something else and I'm getting off track.

I've told friends of mine that felt they were ugly to either cheer up or accept it. No one can make you feel gorgeous. No one can tell you you're beautiful if you won't believe it.

[WildChild]

I truly doubt that you are ugly. You may not fit what you percieve as the standard of beauty but that is another thing altogether. If you look at fashion through the centuries you will see that what is perceived as beauty has varied widely.

My first thought reading a post that says, " I won't even talk to someone, male or female, if they're not physically attractive," was a raised eyebrow of disapproval. But the following statement made me chuckle, "I've told friends of mine that felt they were ugly to either cheer up or accept it." It proves the point, in that if she won't talk to unattractive people, but has freinds that think they are unattractive... It's all perception. Obviously if they were as unattractive as they thought she wouldn't be freinds with them?

A positive attitude will shine through everything else. Ultimately what counts the most is your energy, your spirit, which surrounds you. Physically beautiful and nasty tempered doesn't continue to be seen as beautiful. But a "plain" person with a joyous and loving way about them will draw people.

[Ravsoma]

...I used friends very loosely.

I quite hate the people I hang out with.