I am so frustrated with my boobs

[Tina334]

Hello I am so frustrated with my boobs. I am 29 years old now and when I was 18 I started hating my boobs (A cup) so I told my mom and we thought it could be the best for me if I have a boob job. Anyway I did it and I went to a B cup...everything was good until maybe 3 years ago I started to feel bad about them. I thought they looked fake, too perky and rounded. I talked to the doctor who did it before and he said he can change them for silicone (I had the saline ones) and they would look better and also he said I could go a little bigger...so I did it I changed them and now I am a C cup...for my frame (I am 5.8' and 138 lb) they look good but they still look too perky and rounded but they feel better but still a little hard. Anyway I still hate them. I always see that guys hate fake boobs, they are always talking about s have fake boobs and they look so disgusting and only for fake people and make me feel so sad because I think when I was 18 I couldn't judge the situation very well and now I am 29 it's like I can't take them off because adding I've never told nobody I have fake boobs and I am so afraid to go out with a guy and when he knows he would just dissapear. I had boyfriends before but now it seems than guys hate implants. I don't know what to do help please

[Kallygirlie]

just like any girl, we all have issues excepting part of our body at some point. You were so focused on your boobs back then and no matter what you do you may never think they look good no because you made such a big deal out of it for 10 yrs. Hints why you went a second time. Surgeons bank on this stuff. I'm sure yours look fine. My cousin had an A cup and decided to get impants. i believe she is now a full b or small c. cant really remember but her's honestly look great. I'm a double D and I kinda wish I had what she has now. Yeah they are perky but they are supposed to be perky. men love perky. Have your boyfiends in the past known you have fake boobs? My cousin is married with 3 kids so obviously some guys dont mind it.

[WildChild]

Oh dear, let me let you in on a little something and I'm pretty sure the men will back me up on this; it isn't your boobs that are the issue - it's your attitude. You aren't your breasts. They don't define you. You have placed them in the posistion of being responsible for your success in relationships and life. Unless the man is remarkably shallow (and some are) boobs may draw his gaze but that isn't what will hold his attention and keep him around.

[Tina334]

Thank you your reply...well I think my self-esteem was going down little by little because I have been reading and talking about this more often ultimately...before I just didn't care. What I hate is that I really needed it the surgery because I was flat. I look at it as a nose job, people do that almost everyday and nobody think they are fake people like they think about people who have a boob job. I am thinking in either take them off of going smaller just because I don't want them to sag so bad after the removal.

Oh dear, let me let you in on a little something and I'm pretty sure the men will back me up on this; it isn't your boobs that are the issue - it's your attitude. You aren't your breasts. They don't define you. You have placed them in the posistion of being responsible for your success in relationships and life. Unless the man is remarkably shallow (and some are) boobs may draw his gaze but that isn't what will hold his attention and keep him around.

[Livelaughlove]

The issue is not your boobs its how you view them.

So you will always have problems with them!

Your trying to fix a psychological problem physical surgery!

Im a guy and I have to tell you have been just as satisfied by my ex's that have an A cup as opposed to a C cup!

I think you just have to appreciate that your beautiful no matter what size your boobs are or there shape or any other physical attribute and understand that what makes women beautiful is there imperfections!

I think you should reapet in the mirror how beautiful they are and how much a man would love to play with them

I would be a happy to offer my masquline hands for you haha

Live laugh and love

[Tina334]

Thank you for your reply
I went to a second time because I wanted them natural looking and I thought they could fix it. My ex boyfriends yeah they know I have fake boobs...they didn't care but I guess because I told them when they already loved me

just like any girl, we all have issues excepting part of our body at some point. You were so focused on your boobs back then and no matter what you do you may never think they look good no because you made such a big deal out of it for 10 yrs. Hints why you went a second time. Surgeons bank on this stuff. I'm sure yours look fine. My cousin had an A cup and decided to get impants. i believe she is now a full b or small c. cant really remember but her's honestly look great. I'm a double D and I kinda wish I had what she has now. Yeah they are perky but they are supposed to be perky. men love perky. Have your boyfiends in the past known you have fake boobs? My cousin is married with 3 kids so obviously some guys dont mind it.

[Tina334]

Thanks for your reply and I really appreciate a guy opinion too...well yeah it is obvious that my self-esteem is not good about it I can tell too... I really like my boobs, they look very good If I were a guy I would love them but I guess everything goes to a place since I broke up with my boyfriend and I start thinking about dating other guys and what they would say about it? When do you think is the best time to tell a guy I have fake boobs??

The issue is not your boobs its how you view them.

So you will always have problems with them!

Your trying to fix a psychological problem physical surgery!

Im a guy and I have to tell you have been just as satisfied by my ex's that have an A cup as opposed to a C cup!

I think you just have to appreciate that your beautiful no matter what size your boobs are or there shape or any other physical attribute and understand that what makes women beautiful is there imperfections!

I think you should reapet in the mirror how beautiful they are and how much a man would love to play with them

I would be a happy to offer my masquline hands for you haha

Live laugh and love

[Kallygirlie]

honestly, I said it on another post, I think the reason people look down on boob jobs is because of the vast majority of people that get them done then flaunt them and make it a point to let the world see them. If you are just a normal women who just wasn't happy then no ones gonna fault you for this. Why does a man need to know you have fake boobs? That would be like me telling a guy I met on the first day that my front 6 teeth were fake and screwed in. It's something that isn't going to effect the relationship. If you feel comfortable enough in yourself to share then fine be it but really you having fake boobs isn't really something I feel you have to tell someone

[Livelaughlove]

Thanks for your reply and I really appreciate a guy opinion too...well yeah it is obvious that my self-esteem is not good about it I can tell too... I really like my boobs, they look very good If I were a guy I would love them but I guess everything goes to a place since I broke up with my boyfriend and I start thinking about dating other guys and what they would say about it? When do you think is the best time to tell a guy I have fake boobs??

Well I think you are still viewing them from a place of weakness by calling them "FAKE"

To me what it sounds like your saying is... "I have fake boobs and I think he may be disappointed that there not real, when should I break the news to him?"

First understand that whether they are implants or not they are a part of you because of that the man will love them just as much as he loves you.

When should you "break the news"?

1.If the guy asks say"yeah there implants but they are still fun to play with" or if your more flirtatious say "Looks like you'll just have to find out for yourself" and say it with a smile! The guy will love you! Nothing more attractive then a women who embraces her body!

Act as if its no big deal and others will too! You dont need to bring it up at every conversation, but dont hide it either!

Hope this helps

Live laugh and love

[Tina334]

Thank you, I feel and think the same way. I don't have to tell them because it won't affect the relationship. Maybe I have read lately too many men saying they hate fake boobs, they are disgusting, they won't be with a woman who has them...I guess that kind of guy I don't want to meet. I did it because it would make look a little better with my clothes on. I don't like to show them or wear shirt showing my cleavage. Thanks for time your time in answering me

honestly, I said it on another post, I think the reason people look down on boob jobs is because of the vast majority of people that get them done then flaunt them and make it a point to let the world see them. If you are just a normal women who just wasn't happy then no ones gonna fault you for this. Why does a man need to know you have fake boobs? That would be like me telling a guy I met on the first day that my front 6 teeth were fake and screwed in. It's something that isn't going to effect the relationship. If you feel comfortable enough in yourself to share then fine be it but really you having fake boobs isn't really something I feel you have to tell someone