How can I get used to anal?

[noor]

It hurts like h*** . My fiance always asks me & I always refuse. But on his birthday I allowed him to do it. It hurt like even though he went in slowly.

[2HOT4U]

It can hurt if not properly, I recently tried it again and found I enjoy it more now than I did when I was younger, too bad I still do not feel that way about giving blow jobs, huh?

[NDNICEGUY]

I have done it with women before, most were not huge fans but one woman seemed to really get off on it, never heard a woman moan and make so much noise, thought I was hurting her so I stopped and she got mad at me and told me to get it back in there, not quite t hat politely though

[danceintx]

Ok guys, I'm sure ya'll don't need a play by play, but I tried last night what ya'll suggested, lube and my BOB, and tried to put in as much as I could, mabye about a half to a whole inch, and I hurt down there today and when I had a B.M. it bled a little. This is harder than I thought. : (

[Miya]

How big around was it? It's usually best to start narrow and increase from there, stopping to add lots of extra lube as you go.

[danceintx]

Ok, this is where good communication pays off. So my bf and I got together tonight, and he went to go backdoor again. So I tried to stop and say go slow or something, but apparently he didn't get that signal. And he just went for it. Now I had never told him that I had never gone there before. It wasn't actually as bad as I thought it was going to be, once you get past the first part, it's really not that painful. Enjoyable I think would not be the word either. But I made it through it. I am home and noticed I am bleeding a little, but still, not very painful. But then, once we were done, he says he gets that I like that. I was like, to be honest that was the first time I had done it. He was confused and said he only did it cause he got the impression I wanted it because he had fingered me there and I didn't stop him. I said I only did it cause I thought he wanted it. Now, I have no idea if he is just tested me with different things to see what I like cause he is always asking me what I like. Or, if he wanted that, but is now playing it off. Wish I would have just brought it up beforehand like I was thinking about earlier.

[rcoreyus]

you already know the answer - communicate. But - if you told him to stop he should have - you need to talk about that more than anything.

[Isabellacat]

If it bled you should'nt go at it too rough. You should tell him to go slower and more gentle next time.

[nightqueen]

Maybe anal is just not your cup of tea. Nothing that says you have to like it.

[WildChild]

We've been through details on this before; bear down like you are having a bowel movement, before he tries to enter. This actually relaxes the muscles. Have him slide just the head of his penis in and then wait, give your muscles a minute to relax further, you'll feel it. He is not to move until you give the OK. After that it should be pretty easy.